I sleep with my girlfriend’s mother. I’m a weak man and couldn’t do anything about it
A MAN has revealed he cheated on his girlfriend – with her mother.
The 25-year-old man explained that the mother of his 22-year-old partner came across him after a drunken Christmas celebration.
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He admitted he was “weak” and “gave in quite easily” but now feels incredibly guilty about his infidelity.
The man wanted to share his story and get advice and took to social media to share everything.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/relationshipadvice thread, the man wrote under the username @discardthis4849 and titled his post “I slept with my girlfriend’s mom and I don’t know how to end it.”
He explained that after a little too much alcohol, things between him and his partner’s 43-year-old mother “got out of hand”.
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He admitted: “My girlfriend and I spent the 2018 Christmas holidays with her parents. One night we all drank a lot of wine and everyone got pretty knackered.
“Everyone eventually went to bed except me and my girlfriend’s mother, and it all spiraled out of control.
“I don’t want to go into details, but we ended up being very comfortable on the couch in their living room.
“Fast forward a few months and her mother came to visit for the weekend and the moment my girlfriend left she was all over me.
“I feel like shit, but I’m a weak man and gave in pretty easily.”
But not only did he sleep with his girlfriend’s mother, he did it more than once.
He added: “This has only happened twice since Christmas and the guilt has become overwhelming.
“I pulled her aside and tried to tell her to stop this, but she was just flirty and dismissive about the whole thing and started kissing me.
“My girlfriend is probably one of the sweetest people you could meet. She always takes good care of me and does her best.
‘I know if I told her the truth she would be devastated and I don’t want to tear her family apart either. I’m not sure how to approach this.
I realize that I have dug myself into a hole that I cannot get out of
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“Me and my girlfriend have never really had an argument apart from some bickering, so I can’t even think of a good excuse to end our relationship, but I know this can’t continue and her mother doesn’t want to stop.”
Unsure of what to do, he wondered, “Should I just tell my girlfriend the truth about what happened, or should I just bail and let the cards fall where they may?”
Four warning signs that your partner is cheating
Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.
They start taking their phones everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal for us to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “
“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
If partners cheat, they may avoid you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.
“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
“I realize that I have dug myself into a hole that I cannot get out of. I don’t want to break up with her.
“She makes me very happy, but I see no other choice.”
Reddit users respond
Reddit users were left open-mouthed by the man’s confession, with many flocking to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
One person said: “You are [a] sleazebag and her mother too. She deserves better than you and her mother. It’s that simple.”
By keeping it hidden from her, you’re already causing more damage
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Another added: “Stupid and disgusting.
“Break up with your girlfriend and tell her about your mother’s affair with you.”
While a third commented: “By keeping it hidden from her you’re already causing more damage… she’ll find out eventually, nothing stays secret…
“However, if you are honest with her, she will respect that rather than find out some other way.”
Following the outpouring of shocked reactions from social media users, the anonymous man later confessed: “I decided not to tell my girlfriend and let it happen naturally.
“I will stop seeing her mother and avoid her at all costs, and whatever happens, happens. There’s no point in hurting her.”
