I think my father is hiding a secret family. My sister says, let’s wait until we tell mom

A DAUGHTER is torn as she suspects her father is a bigamist and the father of a secret family.

She said her sister, 18, is determined not to discuss the situation with their parents until after Christmas.

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They became concerned that her father would cheat on their mother after discovering a Facebook profile with the same surname.

The 16-year-old said they initially thought it could be from a relative on her father’s side, but they weren’t sure because they didn’t know much about it.

However, they noticed that “something was strange” when they took a closer look at the posts and photos on the account.

“In one post someone called him ‘dad’ and then we realized there were at least three people who appeared to be his children,” she said, writing on Reddit.

“My father is an engineer at a salt mine and he is usually away from home for fourteen to fifteen days.

“If the work is very intense, we sometimes don’t see him for a month.

“According to reports we found, these people, who we believe are his children, live four hours away from us. That means when my father is at the mine, he is two hours from our house and two hours from their house.

“From what we saw, it appears that my father is still with this person as they celebrated their 30th anniversary not too long ago.

‘We wonder if she is his ex-wife, but if so, why don’t we know our half-siblings? Why are they celebrating their wedding?

“I know it’s kind of obvious what’s going on, but I haven’t fully processed it yet.”

She said her mother never mentioned her father having children with another woman.

“I want to tell my mom, but my sister says we have our pajamas and everything ready for Christmas,” she continued.

“She insists we wait until after the holidays to tell her because it would be strange to do it now.

“Besides my sister, we have two brothers, and only the eldest knows.”

Several shocked comments on the post advised the teen to contact the woman they believe is dating her father.

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

Meanwhile, one person described the situation as ‘disturbing’ and said she needed to talk to her father first.

Another agreed, saying: “Go straight to the person who knows for sure what is happening.”

In a third response to the post, the teen was urged to consider the consequences of her actions on her younger siblings.

“This is a difficult position to be in,” they wrote. “You do what you think is best. If you think it’s going to ruin the holidays for your siblings, I’d wait too.

“As hard as it is to wait, it might be for the best. But if you have a family member, a counselor or someone else from whom you can gather this information and ask for advice, do so.

“You shouldn’t just keep this information to yourself when it comes to something this big. I hate that this is happening to all of you.

“Hang in there and try to look on the bright side of things. It is the best thing we can do in any difficult situation.

“You might end up with more siblings you didn’t know you needed, let alone didn’t know you had.”

“I feel like it’s surreal and it doesn’t happen to me. I can only imagine how you feel.”

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