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Orgasming can often feel when the 'point' of sex, but it is actually far from.
So far, many people have never orgased and yet enjoy sex.
For those who crave that all -embracing finish line, however, there are several ways to help you get there.
Dailymail.com spoke with Emma Kobil, LPC, a trauma therapist who specializes in working with women and couples.
Emma revealed why someone can struggle into an orgasm, how it feels and the better to achieve that pleasant light at the end of the tunnel.
Why can't some women can't orgasm?
There are many reasons why a woman would have trouble reaching the finish line.
Emma broke them in three parts – unprocessed shame or mental blocks, lack of clitoral stimulation and unprocessed trauma.
She explained: “If you are worried about what you look like, sounds like you are doing well,” your nervous system can stay in a state of tension instead of relaxation – orgasm. '
Dailymail.com spoke with Emma Kobil, LPC, a trauma therapist who specializes in working with women and couples, about orgasms (stock image)
Emma also gave tips on how this block could be overcome.
“If you are this, know that you cannot force your nervous system to calm or force an orgasm,” she said.
'Start to note that this is happening and practice some self -vesselness.
“Know that you don't have to reach an orgasm for anyone and be patient with your body.”
The sex expert also urged people to: “Consider processing what is coming for you with a friend or therapist.”
Most women are all too familiar with very little clitoral stimulation, where some partners don't even try to touch the small magical button.
Emma said that many women not just an orgasm from penetration orgasm.
“The clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve endings and often requires direct stimulation, but very few women are taught about how they can enjoy themselves.”
To take the reins on their own, Emma advised: “Buy a vibrator and explore your clitoris.”
Emma revealed why someone can struggle into an orgasm, how it feels and the better to reach that pleasant light at the end of the tunnel (stock image)
Emma also revealed that unprocessed trauma can play a role in your lack of climaxes.
“Past negative experiences, religious conditioning or shame about pleasure can lead to emotional blocks that make it harder to let go,” she shared.
She also wanted to notice: “If your partner is moving too quickly or is not tailored to your needs, your body may not have time to build an orgasm.”
Many women can confirm this fact – especially when men slow down, accelerate or change their rhythm despite our signals.
How can an orgasm feel?
If you have never had an orgasm, you may not know what to expect.
Emma explained how a big O can feel for a woman.
'An orgasm can feel like a structure of pleasure that intensifies and releases in waves.
'Involuntary muscle contractions in the pelvic floor and vaginal walls.
'A feeling of warmth, tingling or almost euphoria by the body.
“And a deep feeling of relaxation or liberated afterwards.”
The next time you explore your body or are intimate with a partner, pay attention to how your body reacts and you may be closer to an orgasm than you think.
How can women increase their chances of orgasm?
Emma was equipped with tips to help women struggle in the climax department.
She again revealed a list that women can turn when they try to orgasm – prioritize predict and clitoral stimulation, understand your body through self -examination, communicate with your partner and challenge shame or negative beliefs.
“Instead of hurrying into penetration, you investigate what feels good, including oral, toys or hand stimulation,” the sex expert advised.
'Do this yourself first and then invite your partner when you feel ready and safe enough to do this.
“Talk about any fears that can come for you if it feels safe to do this.”
She also encouraged to take the time to learn about your own body.
'Masturbation can help you learn what kind of pressure, speed or rhythm works for you. Take your time and feel no pressure to make something happen, “she suggested.
Communication and honesty with your partner is also the key.
Emma said, “Give clear, soft feedback about what feels good (and what is not) so that they can help to meet your needs.”
She also urges people to challenge shame that can hide their brains while trying to enjoy themselves.
“As thoughts like” I do it too long “or” I wouldn't need this “come on, remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you,” she shared.
'Many women have and struggle with this issue and there is never any pressure for you an orgasm.
“Be yourself curious about the journey without trying to force yourself to get to an end point.”
