Psychologist reveals how praise can actually be a sign that your friendship has become toxic

A clinical psychologist has revealed three signs that a friendship may have become toxic.

Dr. Julie Smith, from Hampshire, went to TapWhere she shared the information in a short video.

She often places clips on topics about mental health, including how you can build up self -confidence, why we postpone and warning signals that your partner is emotionally immature.

In her recent video about toxic friendships, Dr. Smith: ‘Here are three hidden signs that your friendship has become toxic.

“Number one, your friendship is conditional that you are not a threat to them, so you have to stay small enough so that they can tolerate you.”

She went to the second sign and added: “They don’t respect the word” no “. So instead they manipulate you to do what they want. ‘

The third warning sign that she was lifting was ‘what sounds like praise like poison’.

Dr. Smith explained: “So even comments that seem to appear on the surface with contempt.”

Clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Smith (photo) revealed hidden signs that a friendship is toxic in a video shared on TIKTOK

The video was accompanied by a caption in which the psychologist shared more hidden signs that a friendship is toxic.

She wrote: ‘When you share bad news, your offer for connection and support is crushed by something apparently many worers that ever happened to them.

‘Sharing good news or something positive that happens to you also feels unwanted. You might be met with sarcasm, or praising it with insult. ‘

Dr. Smith concluded: “Or you may notice that you are subtly excluded in a way that you were not when things didn’t go so well for you.”

Viewers went to the commentary part to share their experiences with poisonous friends. It was admitted that they were often in these kinds of friendships and write: ‘I have often wondered why I kept involving myself in poisonous friendships and then I found out that it was me. I hired this because of my fear of intimacy !! Just say. ‘

A further Tiktok user shared their thoughts about what people should do if they are in this situation. They wrote: ‘I promise that you will find peace and friendship if you cut that person to find better. I cut someone like that in September with whom I had been incredibly close for years. It has been peaceful. ‘

Psychologist Dr. Julie Smith (depicted) often shares videos on topics about mental health care on her Tiktok -channel

Another noticed how cutting the poisonous friend had benefited them and wrote: “So happy that I had a distance.”

A number of commentators shared how they had been in toxic friendships. They wrote: “That sounds like the story of my life.”

Another simply said: “100% your words resonate with me.”

Dr. Smith has previously talked about friendships in earlier videos. In such a clip, she Marked the red flags that indicate that your friends may not have your back.

She said that when something good happens in your life, a faux -friend can act differently.

‘You suddenly realize that this is not a friendship, this is a competition. But this is a competition that you didn’t know you were in, “she said.

If your friend never apologizes for what they have done, they may not have your best interests in the heart. The expert said, watch out if they will not say sorry for their actions or take responsibility when they harm your feelings.

Viewers went to the commentary part of the video of Dr. Julie Smith to share their experiences with poisonous friendships

Dr. Smith then passed to talk about the third and final warning sign that your friendship is a sham.

She said you feel that you have to walk on eggshells or notice that you censor yourself around them to fit in is another meaningful indication that your friendship is not built on a fixed basis.

“The latter is often ignored. Do you ever pick it up? These are just a few of the subtle, uncomfortable ways in which people who do not really have our best interests can reveal themselves.

“But it’s not just friendship that is so crucial for a healthy and happy life, it’s good quality friendship.”

She added: ‘If a friendship removes your life, instead of adding it, you have to make a decision. But never be relentless in your decisions. This is your life and relationships are complex. ‘