It is always difficult to find a balance between the mental load and finding a happy medium between the household and the workload. Especially when one of the two feels that he or she has more to do than the other.
But a mother of two took to a Mumsnet forum to vent her frustrations about her ‘horrible’ husband.
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Because she wants to hear other people’s opinions, explained that even though her two sons are teenagers, she still gets up early, around 7:30 am, to take care of their pets.
She said her husband would sleep for hours longer and she often had to wake him up “seven times an hour.”
“The kids have only been separated since Tuesday and I’m already mad at him,” she wrote.
“Kids are teenagers so they sleep in when they’re not in school. On school days DH has to drive/pick them up because we moved further away for a bigger house and transport links aren’t great.
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“But when it comes to the holidays He just won’t get out of bed.”
“It causes so much tension.
“He would happily sleep in until noon every day if I left him alone.
“But I wake up around 7:30 and then I go and take care of the animals and other things that need to be done.
“I have to wake him up seven times over the course of a few hours.
“He doesn’t seem to mind, but I hate having to sleep all morning every day.”
Many who answered her told her to let her husband sleep.
“Maybe he likes it and hates you nagging him,” someone said.
A second wrote: “Let him sleep, then you can enjoy the peace and quiet.”
“What jobs do you want him to get up? Why can’t you leave them for him to do when he gets up? Unless he has to be somewhere or do something, let him do what he wants.
“I first thought that while he’s on vacation he should just rest for a while, but this would really make me angry.”
“Just because you don’t want to stay in bed doesn’t mean he shouldn’t…
“It would be different if the children needed sorting for example and I would expect him to be awake before them, but if they aren’t awake I don’t see the urgency,” wrote a third.
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Some asked if he had a job, to which she replied that he didn’t have one at the moment, but that he did volunteer work for a few hours in the afternoon.
“[It’s] “It has nothing to do with his hobby and is therefore not a job for him at all,” she said.
Elsewhere she replied that she “didn’t expect” him to get up at the same time as her and that she did so because it was her “biological clock,” but “by 9:30 he has already slept in 2.5 hours, compared to his school days.”
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Others were more in favor of the mother.
Someone wrote: “I would find this lazy and gross. I couldn’t live with someone who lays in bed all day.”
“Don’t do any of the chores that are solely or largely for his benefit. Make sure your teens do their part too,” said someone else.
A third wrote: “This would make me angry too, OP [original poster]. You have to get up to feed the pets because it looks like he would leave them hungry if he had to do it himself.”
“I initially thought that while he’s on holiday he should just rest for a bit, but actually I would be really pissed off about this,” said a fourth.
