Bride Shamed Over ‘Money-Grabbing’ Invite, People Say They Would Turn Down Over Minor Details
A COUPLE have sparked outrage over their ‘money grab’ wedding invitation, which critics say they rejected outright.
According to one of the friends who was invited to the big day, she had received the invitation via text message. The situation became increasingly worse when the woman started reading the contents.
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“The fall black tie event will be an adults-only reception. There will be an open bar with his and hers beverages and a selection of beer and wine,” the statement said.
To keep costs as low as possible, the couple in love also indicated that guests should not expect any food, apart from a few snacks.
However, in order not to get hungry, the couple advised those present to eat beforehand, as there were numerous places to eat nearby.
”We only serve light snacks, giving you and your guests the perfect opportunity to enjoy an elegant dinner in our beautiful city centre, with endless options before heading to the wedding.”
When writing the invitation, the bride and groom also included a note requesting formal black attire and asked their friends and family to donate money instead of spending cash on gifts.
The couple wrote: ”We plan to celebrate our love with a fantastic honeymoon and your financial contribution would mean everything to us.
”We kindly request that you use cash/a debit card in our card reader or scan the QR code that you receive at the reception.”
The text continued: “We hope you can join us for our special evening and help create monumental memories.”
The guests from the United States were reluctant to attend the ceremony, which required formal attire and limited drinks — and no real food was offered.
The recipient shared a screenshot on Reddit saying, “We don’t want to buy a tuxedo to eat expensive Doritos.”
The wedding invitation sparked anger and other reactions on social media to share their opinions.
“Calling something ‘black tie’ and not feeding the guests is… not ‘black tie,’ but rude at the very least,” one person wrote.
Someone else joined in the conversation: “Come on, dress super fancy, our photos will look better. Also, don’t forget to eat beforehand and definitely give us money for our honeymoon via text message!”
“Tasteless, tasteless, tasteless.”
Redditors also criticized the couple because they thought it was all about making money.
When is it vulgar to ask for money for your wedding? And how can I ask for it without offending people?
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous Deputy Digital Editor and Bride-to-be
Josie Griffiths said: “As someone who lives in an already cluttered 400 square foot apartment, presents weren’t exactly top of the list for our August wedding anniversary.
“All we want is money for our honeymoon. And we’re already expecting a backlash from the older generations, but what can you do?
“I would love to have an air fryer or coffee maker in the kitchen, but we simply don’t have the space for it.
“I think there are a few things you have to do when you ask for money so that it doesn’t look tacky. And that’s not the case with this bride.
“First of all, the money is for our honeymoon, not to cover the wedding costs, which we are paying for entirely ourselves.
“Two – like any gift it is completely optional and people can decide for themselves how much they want to spend on it. When I went to a wedding abroad in my mid 20s I didn’t contribute to their honeymoon fund and I still feel comfortable with my decision, the trip to Spain cost me and my partner a lot already.
“Under no circumstances should you ever charge people a specific amount. You may have family members who are more generous than expected, which would be great, but that’s just the way your guests are and they shouldn’t have to pay for the food, decorations and entertainment you’ve chosen.
“Three – make it look and feel like a register – there are some great websites where guests can donate money for cocktails, room upgrades and experiences abroad, which makes it a lot more personal than a bank account number and sort code. People like to know where their money is going and then you can send them a nice thank you letter with photos of you enjoying what they paid.
“As for the way you ask it, some people write poems, but I personally hate them. They sound childish and you wouldn’t write a poem asking your partner to send you £100 for your trip, so it sounds odd here.
“Something like this, on your formal invitation or wedding website, would be perfect: The most important thing to us is that you can celebrate with us on our wedding day. However, if you would like to give a gift, we would be happy to accept a small contribution towards our honeymoon.
“Good luck!”
“This is the rudest way to make money off a wedding that doesn’t even bother sending out invitations,” one woman responded in bewilderment.
“It’s about the pictures (and probably the presents), not the guests,” someone else agreed.
After reading the brazen invitation, many indicated that they would simply refuse to attend the wedding.
One of them laughed: “RSVP: No, I can drink beer at home in my evening dress without these people around.”
However, there were also a few people who didn’t understand why most people were so put off by it.
One user wrote: “Uh, I don’t see anything terrible here. There’s no dress code (other than dressing up), there’s an open bar and snacks, and they’re not looking for gifts. That seems pretty chill to me.”
“I really don’t care if people get a cheap deal, as long as they’re honest about it,” one woman agreed.
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