I have worked in childcare for more than ten years … Here are the worst mistakes that a parent can make

Have you ever told your child that they should finish their meal or cannot they get dessert?

Have you ever forced a child to say sorry after they have hurt another child? Or called a younger naughty if they misbehave?

Well, according to a woman who has worked in childcare for more than ten years, these upbringing practices, although customary, are actually extremely harmful to children.

Esther Allen33, based in the UK, has a diploma in the early children’s education and has been a full -time babysitter for 14 years and provides children of all ages from newborn to 13.

The expert exclusively spoke with the Daily Mail about the often used methods by mothers and fathers who, according to them, are harmful to young people.

She also broke out what parents should do instead, so that they can ensure that they give their son or daughter the best possible youth and promote a healthy environment to grow.

Here are the common parenting techniques that Esther, a childcare worker of 14 years old, believes that mothers and fathers should avoid what it costs.

Expect young children to say sorry

Esther explained that a young child has ‘not the emotional development’ or ’empathy’ to really feel sorry, so it says they can apologize if they misbehave, be counterproductive.

‘[It] Just teaches them that by saying that word, everything is fine, “she explained.

‘[Say] They hit another child, say sorry and continue, [they’ll] Probably go back and hit again. ‘

Instead, she said that if a child touches another under her watch, she lets them check if the other child is in order.

‘Than [I have them] Ask the child if they want a hug, High Five, or maybe see if they want a certain toys to cheer them up, “she added.

“In this way the child learns that if they hurt someone, they have to repair it by checking the other child and seeing if there is something that they can do to make it better, versus just say sorry.”

Children that children finish the food on their plates

Esther said that she always leaves the child to decide how much they eat and what they eat, “and advised to force a young person to finish all the food on their plate.

She explained that they had to eat food counterproductively and blame them for the process, resulting in more picky food on the road.

And according to the expert in the field of childcare are toddlers who go through a picky stage when it comes to food, so it’s best not to make when they skip a meal.

“I serve the children, I am a healthy, nutritious meal, always with at least one food on their plate that I know and will eat,” she shared.

‘Then I leave it to the child to decide how much they eat and what they eat. If they take a bite from the pasta and say they are ready, that’s fine.

‘I never stand or never encourage the child to eat more. Usually most toddlers will go through a picky stage with food, hardly any food some days than eating more days more than you may think.

‘But often when you look at how much they eat for more than a week, it tends to be right, even if it feels like they are living out of the sky.

“In general, neurotypal children will not starve themselves.”

Moreover, if a child refuses to eat something, Esther said you shouldn’t offer them something else for dinner.

A. A.This will do this is to strengthen any form of picky or picky food and you can be stuck that you are stuck in a cycle of serving the dinner, the child refuses, and you have to make something else, “she added.

Children as a naughty label

Almost every parent is guilty of calling their child ‘naughty’ when they act, but according to Esther you should never use that word to describe your son or daughter.

She even said you should never give a child a label.

‘Children are not naughty, sometimes their behavior can be. But the child itself – never, “she emphasized.

“Children often become the label that they hear from them, a child as a naughty, shy or messy labeling – they often internalize it and what is expected of that label.”

She explained that children who ‘act’ often simply ‘overwhelmed, regulated, hungry, tired or seek a connection’, so it’s best to take the time to try to find out which can make them misunderstand.

“Every behavior has a reason behind it. It is often a case of a step back and try to assess the situation and discover the route cause of the behavior, “she said.

‘Finding the cause is often better than responding behavior itself. However, it is important that boundaries and limits are also set and these are consistent – otherwise this can also cause more behavioral problems.

‘[If] All the other fails, bring them out – sometimes just a change of environment and the space to wave, climb or run free can make the world of difference. ‘

Children forcing their toys to share

Most parents believe that learning their children to share with others is an essential lesson, but Esther believes that it is actually not good for them.

She advised to force a child to share with someone else when she is in the middle of the use of a toy.

“When a child plays with toys, they are busy, work, explore, creative, imaginative and often in their own world,” she explained.

‘When another child comes by, that toys and the parent require it to the other child, what message tells that the child played that?

‘The requirements of the other child are more important than their game? Or that whatever they have to share?

“I always allow children to play with toys as long as they want a brother or sister or friend, they have to wait until they are ready.”

Hurry to help children with something without having them try first

The babysitter also pointed out that many parents hurry to do things for their children without even leting them try to do it themselves first.

She said that most children are much more capable than their parents think, and emphasized the importance of letting them try things so that they can learn to be independent and to do it in themselves.

‘Even very young children are extremely capable. Often when they put their thoughts on a task, how difficult or sometimes impossible for them to do, they can be very determined to do their utmost, “she shared.

“If it is a task that I know they can do, or clearly show interest in trying – such as dressing – then I give them the time and space to try first instead to get in to help just because it can be faster or I think they can’t do it.”

Allow screen time for young children

Esther said that they never leave children younger than two, and children who are two to five years old only get Max under her watch 30 minutes a day.

She pointed out that excessive use of electronics ‘has been associated with development delays and behavioral problems’.

“Screens can cause more brother or sister arguments and collapses, poor sleeping habits, shorter attention span and problems with food as screens are used during meals,” she shared.

‘And children struggle to just play without an adult or a screen. I know that screens make things 10 times easier at the moment, but at what costs? ‘

Don’t give children enough free time

Finally, Esther said that she believes that parents are far too much micromania’s time of their children.

She emphasized the importance of letting them have free time to play alone.

“I believe that parents entertain their children too much, play with their toys, fill their days with trips, play dates, screen time, do crafts and play together,” she said.

‘It is of course important to spend time with children, connecting, binding and doing things together.

“But it is also of vital importance for their development that they play freely for a good part of the day without any involvement of adults or guidance.”