Cardi B’s ‘clarity’ in split from Offset is ‘not surprising,’ says expert
CARDI B undoubtedly shocked her fans when she announced her pregnancy so soon after filing for divorce.
Cardi’s “major” split from husband Offset over news of their baby gave the mother of two a different experience, but also the “truth” she needed, according to a perinatal therapist.
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Cardi B, 31, announced her third pregnancy with husband Offset, 32, on Instagram the day after she filed for divorce from him in July.
The rapper shared a photo of herself on a balcony in New York City, covering her bare baby bump in a plunging red dress.
“With every ending comes a new beginning!” she wrote.
“I am so grateful to have shared this season with you. You have given me more love, more life, and most importantly, renewed strength!”
One commenter said she hoped “she would stay away this time,” referring to the on-again, off-again relationship the couple has had for six years.
“You keep bashing Offset for cheating but you keep taking him back and having kids for him,” wrote another.
Cardi B filed for divorce from her husband, rapper Migos, on July 31.
A representative said People that her decision “was not based on rumors of cheating, but was long overdue.”
Associated Therapist Elizabeth Brands bee Manhattan Wellbeing said Cardi B had “reconsidered” her marriage because she was pregnant.
“People might be surprised that Cardi B is pregnant and divorcing Offset at the same time,” the perinatal therapy a specialist told The US Sun.
“But pregnancy is a matter of reflection, because the interests of a couple become greater as a family grows.
“Every time a couple has a new child, they commit more to their relationship and reassess what works and what doesn’t.
“I’m not Cardi B’s or Offset’s therapist, but things that were once acceptable may not be now.
An expectant mother can reach out and give her partner the opportunity to show up.
Elizabeth Brands
“The boundaries that were previously crossed can also change and evolve.
“This is a high-stakes situation.”
Cardi B is reportedly seeking primary custody of their children Wave Set, two, and daughter Kulture Kiari, six.
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Marks suggested that filing for divorce would have been a fair choice and outcome for Cardi B.
“People might say that the decision to divorce now depends on whether you support each other or not,” she said.
“Cardi B. may not have developed so well.
If you have had postpartum depression before, the chance of getting it again is about 30 percent.
Elizabeth Brands
“Women need clarity in marriage right now.
“A mother-to-be can reach out and offer her partner the opportunity to reveal herself.
“If they don’t show up at that moment or can’t come, it’s very illuminating to see.
“Perhaps Cardi B’s divorce is the truest outcome.”
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Belcalis Marlenis Almánzar, better known as Cardi B, has spoken about her relationship with Offset on occasion.
The marriage has been plagued by rumors of cheating, breakups and reconciliations.
The couple’s romance began in 2017, when they were spotted together at Super Bowl LI, just before Offset proposed.
“What I like is that we really like each other, like a support system,” she said Rolling Stone in may.
“We’re basically each other’s cheerleader. We come from two different worlds. Sometimes I can’t… not that I can’t be a wife. It’s like my career is taking my life. You know what I mean?” she added.
“My career comes first, then my kids come second. And sometimes I don’t realize that there are so many things I value more than my relationship.”
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After the birth of her daughter Kulture in 2018, Cardi B struggled with postpartum depression.
“I think I underestimated the whole motherhood thing,” she wrote on Instagram after the birth.
“When Kulture was born, I felt like a kid again; everything made me cry and I needed a lot of love.
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Cardi B filed for divorce from Offset in 2020 after rumors of cheating surfaced.
“I was tired of not seeing things in alignment,” she said.
Two months later, the couple was back together.
This could be an opportunity for her to discover that now and gather more people around her.
Elizabeth Brands
Son Wave came in 2021 when Cardi B confessed on X that she was experiencing “weird postpartum hormones” again.
“I can’t wait for these weird postpartum hormones to fully leave my body. I’m crying for no reason,” she wrote.
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Marks stated that Cardi B’s postpartum struggle hinged on support.
“Cardi B has had postpartum depression twice before,” she said.
“She may not have as much access to the support she had in the past when she was pregnant.
“Maybe she didn’t see that many people, especially in the beginning of those pregnancies.
“If you have had postpartum depression before, the chance of getting it again is about 30 percent.
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“We can hope that there is some planning, such as preparing to take medications after her birth or taking them now.
“You can take safety measures to prevent yourself from suffering from postpartum depression, like we’ve had before.
“My advice to Cardi B would be: support, support, support.
“This might be an opportunity for her to explore that now and gather more people around her.
“Cardi B needs to slow down in a lot of ways.”
Elizabeth Marks Top Tips for Coping with Postpartum Depression
- Determine what worked for you before and what didn’t.
- Make sure you don’t feel isolated.
- Call your friends and tell them what support you need.
- Find a therapist for postpartum depression so you can work together during pregnancy.
- Choose a support network and find people who can support you.
- Decide and realize that you have to do the best for the baby. New mothers sometimes think that they have to be hyper-present.
- The best thing for a baby is to be the best version of herself as a mother.
Marks was hopeful for Cardi B’s third pregnancy, claiming the mother of two was being “authentic” in her posts.
“This is a full circle moment for Cardi B and Offset,” she said.
“Maybe they say we’ll have a beautiful child together and that there’s love, but we won’t continue together.
Cardi B has gained a little bit of confidence from her past experiences.
Elizabeth Brands
“It would not have been authentic to announce the birth and not the divorce or vice versa.
“They decided that their relationship would change and that they would move forward as co-parents instead of partners.”
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“Cardi B has gained some confidence from the experiences she’s had before,” Marks continued.
“She will never experience childbirth or anything like that again.
“This birth could be completely different, and hopefully she goes into it and uses the evidence and support she’s had before.
“She was able to use the strength of these other two pregnancies to take the next step.
For Offset, he should consider how he can align with this and provide support.
Elizabeth Brands
“Pregnancy is physical, emotional and mental, so every part of her body is working twice as hard.
“This means that the relationship can be doubly difficult for her.
“For Offset, he should figure out how to connect with this and provide support.
“For any partner, if there is an opportunity to be there for the person carrying the child in any way, do so.
“This can be done selflessly, without seeking reciprocity.
“They can also find joy while pursuing the best for their children, which is not always the case when parents are together.
“Regardless of what the relationship looks like now, both parents should prioritize time with the child and building a bond.”
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