I tried kinky Feeld and within minutes I was bombarded with dirty requests

“Fancy a threesome with me and my beautiful wife?”

The cheeky message pings into my inbox – and is quickly followed by: “Would you rather be tied up or beaten?”.

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I’ve been on the kinky dating app Feeld for less than 24 hours and I’m already inundated with messages that would make Christian Gray blush.

Originally launched as group sex platform 3nder in 2014, the app was rebranded as Feeld in 2018 after a lawsuit from Tinder. But it still felt like a niche space.

Six years later, Feeld has gone mainstream, with sales growing from £20.7 million to £39.5 million in the last year.

As a 37-year-old single mother who is tired of the “normal” dating scene, I’m curious what all the fuss is about.

So I download the app, but setting up my profile is a minefield.

What is my gender? With over 30 options to choose from, I think it’s a bit basic to choose ‘feminine’.

Next up is my sexual orientation. Despite being The Sun’s Sexpert and attending a lot of sex parties, some names surprise me.

I scroll through options like “Objectumsexual” – someone who is attracted to objects – and wonder if maybe they shouldn’t be in a furniture app.

After choosing “straight” – and feeling like a total dinosaur – I move on to my “desires.”

Couples, Groups, Threes, FF (woman on woman), FFM (two women, one man), you name it, it’s all there.

Then I have to sort out my kinks. Given options like bondage, taming, watching, and GGG (good, giving, and play), I find myself googling more terms than I expected.

But it’s a welcome change from the hiking-obsessed, eco-warrior types taking over traditional apps like Tinder and Bumble.

Cut to the chase

I mean, I’m less interested in the climate, and more interested in my climax.

On Feeld it’s refreshing to cut straight to the point the chase and know who wants what, without all the guesswork and endless talk.

It’s clear that the platform is targeting an audience looking for something a little more exciting.

And it seems to work. While profits have risen, Bumble has seen its shares plummet to record lows. And last year, Tinder reported an 18.5 percent year-over-year decline in the number of U.S. users.

Feeld works the same way as other dating apps: if you like someone, you ‘like’ their profile. If the person “likes” you, you will receive a notification that says: “Feelings are mutual, be brave and play nice.”

You can also ping users who don’t like you with direct messages.

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A few minutes after I log in, my first ping comes in – from ‘Lickyboy’, a 56-year-old man, standing 30 miles away.

He boldly proclaims that a “clean shaven p*c is a must”. Well, a full head of hair is a must for me, so I politely decline.

Interestingly enough, even though I’ve received a lot of unsolicited d*pics on Tinder, Feeld feels more like a respectful space.

The kink community is all about consent, and despite receiving over 1,000 likes and dozens of pings in the span of 24 hours, I have yet to be given an unsolicited choice. That’s progress, right?

Then I matched with Jim, whose bio says, “Switchie, witchie, Lionel Richie.” (A switch is someone who likes to be both dominant and submissive between the sheets.)

“Your phone will probably blow up,” he writes. “I’ve only been using the app for two weeks, but I love how honest everyone here is.”

He mentions in passing that he has already had “two experiences”: one with a married woman and the other with a lesbian couple.

While I’ve received a lot of unsolicited photos on Tinder, Feeld feels more like a respectful space

One thing’s for sure: there’s no beating around the bush (pun intended) in this app. People dive right in.

“Happy!” I tell him, admiring his gym-honed body. Our conversation is interrupted by another ping, this time from a man named Big Daddy.

It reads: “Big hands, big personality, big . . . I’m not sure about the third one, but you can probably help.

While Tinder has become known as a go-to for one-night stands (ONS), many of the men I’ve spoken to on Feeld are looking for a Friends with Benefits (FWB) arrangement.

“I need to vibe with someone,” Big Daddy says.

“US is rarely great sex, you have to have a connection. Regular sex with the same person, even if it’s casual, can be great.”

Feeld lets you select options for FWB or casual flings, taking a lot of the guesswork (and heartache) out of dating.

Of course, I still encounter the cheesy chatter you see on other dating apps.

One says: “Is that a mirror in your pocket? Because I see myself in your pants. Classic.

Sexy voice sounds

But it’s a message from Christian (yes, really), a handsome 38-year-old banker with piercing blue eyes, that really catches my attention.

With his sculpted jawline and six-pack, he could be on the cover of a fitness magazine.

His profile is a mix of desires and hobbies. Be dominant, check the box. High sex drive, double check mark. Drinking champagne in hot tubs. Tap, tap, tap.

He does talk about a love for the financial markets, but we will overlook that.

As I look through his photos, I imagine him tying me up in his red room. And he has a good chat and a cheeky sense of humor too.

Before I know it, we’ve switched from Feeld to WhatsApp, and now he’s sending me sexy ballots in a deep, intellectual voice.

For now I’m going to play the Feeld

God, I really hope he’s not a catfish with a fake profile.

Could he be my Christian Grey? Well, a girl can dream.

But I won’t put all my eggs in one basket since the first rule of the apps is to multi-date. So I keep scrolling and like the guys that pique my interest.

What I really like is the refreshing honesty in the profiles. And knowing if I’m sexually compatible with someone from the start is a game-changer.

There’s nothing worse than meeting a hot guy, only to find out later that he’s a total flop between the sheets.

So for now I’m going to play the Feeld.

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