My husband is fighting for custody of his love child, but I don’t want it

A WOMAN is considering divorce after her husband told her he wanted to fight for custody of his love child.

In the message op Redditshe explained that she and her husband had been married for nine years, and that in 2001 they found out he was being sued for child support.

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“It turns out my husband had an affair shortly after we got married,” she wrote.

“It almost ended our marriage, but we went to counseling together and I agreed to stay in the marriage.”

However, she did have a number of stipulations, including that her husband get a second job so that “his child support payments did not impact our household budget.”

She also emphasized that “at no point would I ever consider having a relationship with this child.”

“If he wanted to chase one with them, fine,” she added.

“But I have absolutely no interest in this boy.”

Although she made her position clear, her husband has been “getting to know his child over the last few years,” during supervised visits “once or twice a month” with a “social worker present.”

He recently came to her and admitted that there was some “baby-mama drama” going on.

“Apparently she has to surrender in May and will be locked up for eight months,” she continued.

“My husband told me he had to take custody while his affair partner is incarcerated or the child would have to go to his grandparents, who actually live on the other coast from us.

“Their child doesn’t want to change schools or be so far away from their friends, mom and dad (she will spend her time fairly locally with us).”

When her husband told her, “she got up and left the house.”

“I went to the corner grocery store, picked up a copy of the apartment guide for our area, went home and handed it to him,” she added.

When he asked if she was serious, she said she felt the same way she did three years earlier, to which he stated he didn’t think it was fair “given the extenuating circumstances.”

“I told him I don’t care about the circumstances,” she said.

‘His child is not welcome in my house.

“If he wants to take over custody, I will grant him an amicable divorce, but I will not change my mind.

“I’m not taking care of another girl’s child.”

People were quick to respond to the post, but the woman responded when they told her that she should be the one to file for divorce if she wants to.

‘No. I don’t do that,” she stated.

“I am not the one who created this situation. If my husband wants to pursue custody, I’ve told him I won’t fight it.

‘I will grant him an amicable divorce and let him go.

‘I’m not going to waste my own time, energy and money on that though!

“He is responsible for getting his own ducks in a row for the situation he has created.

“That also means you’re the one who has to go through the headache of filing.”

And the majority of those who addressed the situation in the comments suggested they simply need to spend time on their relationship.

“Why are you still with him?” wrote one.

“I don’t think in any way it’s your responsibility to raise this child. But it is true is his responsibility. And this poor child didn’t ask for any of it.

“The whole situation would be happier and healthier if you all parted ways.”

“I think you should divorce him and move on with your life,” said another.

“It’s not your job to take care of the child.”

“She should do it the first time she heard about cheating, it would save her from so much drama that followed,” someone else wrote.