My husband made sick AI porn bots out of my mother and his best friend’s wife, I’m trapped
A 35-year-old mother has revealed she wants to leave her husband over his stash of AI-generated porn.
She said they haven’t had much sex since the traumatic birth of their child.
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Getting a lot of pelvic rest and having ‘no help’ with the baby has made it impossible to have sex regularly.
However, she didn’t expect her 35-year-old husband to turn to AI porn.
“I ended up using his laptop for work and was looking for one of my files and saw that he was taking AI porn photos of both his best friend’s wife and my mother,” she said, writing on Reddit.
“I am so shocked and sickened by it. When I confronted him about it, he claimed it was a porn addiction and didn’t use the photos that way.
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“I’m just so disgusting and crazy. I want to leave, but I also don’t want to raise this baby alone.
“AITAH [am I the a**hole]? I don’t know what to do.”
The mother confessed that she was torn because it both seemed “terrifying” to stay with her husband and leave him.
“Every day I wake up and pray that it was all a bad dream, and every day I realize I’m still stuck in this disgusting reality,” she added.
“I never thought anyone could be so confused… especially my husband.”
A stream of commenters urged her to leave, fearing her husband’s actions could get worse.
“I think if it was just random women it might be easier to swallow. But your mom is next level,” one person said.
“If your mom and his best friend’s wife aren’t off limits, no one is,” another commented
‘It’s worrying that he let you use the laptop when you knew they were there. It means he wasn’t ashamed of it.
“This includes your baby’s teachers, friends’ mothers, sisters and ultimately his/her friends.
“People don’t develop a sense of sexual propriety in adulthood, if it’s missing, it’s missing.”
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A third commenter argued that AI images are a “violation” of their marriage and are just as bad as if he had nude photos of someone they know.
“I think you should leave him because he doesn’t respect you,” they continued.
“Maybe he will be a great father, but he can no longer be your husband.
“The real choice you have to make is whether or not to tell his best friend and best friend’s wife.
“It’s not like someone was cheating, but I would want to know if someone I knew well was sexualizing me in that way and I would definitely want to know if I was the best friend.
“NTA [not the a**hole]I pray for your eyes.”
Other comments on the post sympathized with the mother but suggested she try counseling before ending the marriage.
“If there’s a part of you that really wants to save your marriage and leave your baby out of the equation, maybe try counseling,” one Redditor commented.
“But if you can’t get past it. Then you choose divorce. You’ll probably still have to face your mother and your best friend’s girlfriend [girlfriend]which can always make you feel insecure.
“If you stay in an unhappy marriage, your child will have many more problems than a divorce.
“Remember that relationships are modeled on children by their parents, whether they are healthy or unhealthy.
“I’m so sorry you’re going through this, especially with a newborn. But please don’t stay alone because you fear hardship.
“It will only be difficult temporarily. But signing up for an unhappy marriage can mean emotional hardship for the rest of your life.”
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