I’m a Wedding Expert – Four Annoying Questions You Should Never Ask the Bride
Getting married is one of the happiest times of anyone’s life, but planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful.
Not to mention that it can also cost thousands of dollars and get out of hand very quickly.
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And often nothing is done about it when the guests themselves usually harass the bride and groom with frustrating questions after the invitations have been sent.
Some people who are invited to be part of a couple’s special day can often forget how stressful the process can be.
And they begin to view the day purely from their role in it, rather than the day as a whole for the couple.
As a result, wedding experts have revealed the things couples find most irritating about their guests’ reactions to their big day invitation.
Professionals at the leading wedding supplier marketplace, Hitched.nl has created surveys that can be given to couples to find out their biggest pet peeves before the big day.
They decided to share the feedback to help guests understand the toll some seemingly innocent questions can take on the happy couple.
And the experts say there are four things guests should never ask the bride or groom because it makes them seem pushy and irritates the engaged couple.
The first thing you should never ask the happy couple as a guest is whether you can bring a plus one or a child to the wedding.
More than 70 percent of couples say this is one of the most annoying questions a guest can ask before the big day.
Many want their children to be involved if both parents are invited to the big day, which is completely understandable.
But with wedding costs rising and guest list numbers spiraling out of control, there are plenty of reasons why couples can’t give everyone a plus.
Additionally, they may have their own personal reasons for not wanting to have children during their ceremony.
Regardless, couples are urged to make it clear on the invitations whether children will be invited, while guests are urged not to message the couple to ask for additional invites for seniors and children.
Zoe Burke, leading marriage expert and editor of Hitched.co, speaks on TikTok.UK said: “I know this is a delicate subject in many circles, and in an ideal world you would just say ‘we can’t invite children, I’m afraid’ and that would be the end of it.
‘But it’s not an ideal world and people can understandably place a lot of value on their children.
“I would make it very clear in your invitation and say, ‘We regret to inform you that due to venue restrictions we cannot accommodate children at our wedding,’ as this will give you a solid reason why children cannot attend.
“Please note that some people may not wish to attend without their children for various reasons.
‘Maybe they can’t to leave their children with someone else, they may not like being separated, and that’s fine. It is mutual understanding, and that is important.”
The second thing the experts urge people not to ask the bride and groom once they receive their invitation is where they will sit.
More than half (53 percent) of couples say that questions about seating arrangements and who they sit with are the most annoying.
Especially after spending months planning the seating.
After this, it was an annoying question to ask the couple whether or not a guest could give a speech that day.
Do’s and don’ts of dress codes for wedding guests
By Josie Griffiths, fantastic deputy editor and bride-to-be.
I will never forget the wedding I went to in October 2022, where a guest wore a white dress.
It was ill-fitting, knee-length and looked nothing like a real wedding dress, but that didn’t stop everyone from judging her.
The rules for wedding guest outfits – which are annoyingly stricter for women than for men – are designed to “not put the bride front and centre”, which is actually quite difficult to do on someone else’s wedding day.
But if you get it wrong as a guest, you end up looking a little weird to a lot of people who don’t know you personally.
It’s just not the occasion for your new white dress, no matter how much online stores like to dump them in the ‘wedding guests’ section.
I would avoid anything too tight/short, and stay away from super formal dresses unless the dress code calls for it – you don’t want to be in a long sequined dress at a smart casual event.
Personally I don’t like black dresses either, it’s not a funeral.
Otherwise you should be pretty safe. Technically, wearing red means you’re in love with the groom, but that’s the kind of rule most people would scoff at these days.
Just to be safe, I always check what color the bridesmaids are after the Spanish wedding where I saw them walking down the aisle in the exact same dress I had in my Asos shopping cart a few weeks earlier.
If you’re unsure, it’s best to check with the bride… but if you’re already unsure about your dress, that might be the answer you need.
About 38 percent of couples who responded to the survey said this would really annoy them after weeks of thinking about who would give the speeches.
And finally, couples have said that another frustrating question a guest can ask is how to sign up for the big day after receiving an invite with all the details on how to do so.
About 18 percent of respondents said this question (or responding late) was the most frustrating question they could be asked.
In addition to responding late, the wedding experts asked about other guest behaviors that would annoy them.
More than a third of respondents (38 percent) say the most annoying thing a guest can do on the day of the wedding is be the center of attention when the wedding day should actually be about the bride and groom.
While a further third (32 per cent) said getting drunk too early was the most annoying thing about guests’ behavior on their big day.
And almost a fifth (17 percent) said getting in the photographer’s way was the most annoying thing for them.
Other annoying behavior is that guests use their phones too much at the wedding. 13 percent say this is the most annoying thing a guest can do on their big day.
