Annie Kilner’s £15m claims show she’s not a doormat… she needs to protect herself
She has been branded a ‘doormat’ by fellow WAG Rebekah Vardy and repeatedly accused of keeping quiet about her husband’s infidelity by his mistress Lauryn Goodman.
But this week it was revealed that quietly clever Annie Kilner has given cheating Man City star Kyle Walker an ultimatum: pay her half of his £27million fortune now or they will lose their marriage forever.
Sources close to the star also revealed that desperate Annie, 31, asked at least four footballers’ wives for advice before marrying the love rat to ensure financial ‘security’ in case he strayed again.
It comes after months of silence from mum-of-four Annie, who kicked Kyle out of the family home in December when it was revealed he had fathered a second child with influencer Lauryn behind her back.
The responses to Annie’s requests were largely in support of the betrayed WAG.
‘I hope she takes him for everything. Poor Annie, she and her boys deserve so much better. Kyle is a rat-end,” one fan mused.
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Another added: “Annie secures her and her children’s future and takes 50% of Walker’s wealth from Goodman’s clutches. Good for her.”
Is Annie making the right choice by claiming half of everything Kyle owns, or does this suggest she’s too focused on the money?
Here, as part of our Celebs on the Couch series, The Sun’s Agony Aunt, Sally Land, reveals all…
SALLY SAYS: While it may seem difficult for a spouse who has chosen to stay home or work less to ask for a hefty settlement, there are good reasons.
After all, without that spouse who would put his career on hold to take care of the children, run the house and support his partner, the family would not be able to function at all.
And of course there will always be detractors who question the financial demands of any woman, but I’m not sure you can put a price on domestic harmony.
I would never encourage anyone to get married if there are trust issues. Until these are resolved and both parties can prove that they are ready for a genuine commitment, life will only become more complex.
However, it is understandable why a mother with children would be persuaded to marry to try to bring stability. Yet without trust the same rules apply: the marriage will fail.
Every man with parental responsibility has a legal responsibility to care for his children after a relationship ends.
When you’re married, it’s a lot easier. When you divorce, all marital assets are treated as joint assets, giving you a better chance of a fair settlement.
Four warning signs that your partner is cheating
Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.
They start taking their phones everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “
“You should also look at how they put their phone down when it’s not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.
“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
So for anyone entering a long-term relationship, getting married or entering into a civil partnership is the best way to protect yourself financially.
When it comes to the emotional consequences of choosing someone who keeps letting you down, it’s never as simple as staying with someone for the money, especially when children are involved.
Women who have a partner who constantly strays often suffer from low self-esteem. They may think they are not good enough in the bedroom, attractive enough or sexy enough.
Demoralizingly, they think that if they can only lose more weight and become more attractive, they can keep their man this time.
They may also forgive the infidelity because they are too focused on what their relationship and family could be like – and not on how their partner actually behaves.
It can be helpful for these partners to get help exploring why they were attracted to a man who portended trouble in the first place, and why they stuck with it for so long.
Women who have a partner who constantly strays often suffer from low self-esteem. They may think they are not good enough in the bedroom, attractive enough or sexy enough
Sally Land
Too often, these women become accustomed to being emotionally deprived in childhood, so they can’t imagine what it would feel like to be loved with all their heart.
And here’s the thing: his deception isn’t about you. This is a man with an emotional problem that prevents him from ever sharing a fully mature and faithful relationship with a woman.
Of course, a big reason why women tolerate cheating before showing them the door is because they have children together and feel guilty for robbing them of their father.
Terrible husbands often make great fathers, and knowing that your children won’t see them every day can cause a great sense of regret.
And so many mothers tolerate sloppy behavior because they think it benefits their children.
Still, it’s important to think about what your children are witnessing. If they see their father cheating repeatedly and their mother accepting this behavior, it is very possible that they will repeat the same behavior as they grow up.
When parents feel so miserable, a tense and unhappy atmosphere is created at home, with the children being the first to be affected.
It’s a huge step, but in these cases it’s worth considering co-parenting and for many families, separating brings more stability for everyone involved.
If you are caught in an unhealthy cycle of infidelity and forgiveness, you can write to my counselors for free advice and information at deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk.
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