Can you tell the face of a woman how often she has sex? One of these women is sex five times a week – there is a celibatary for 6 years. But you can guess if they admit everything …

How often do you have sex? If you are a woman older than 50, it seems that the answer is not at all.

A recent study has shown that one in four women older than 50 has no interest in sex.

About 24 percent say they have taken the idea, while 15 percent never enjoy.

Reasons for a decreasing sex life are everything from decreasing libido because of the menopauseTo get tired after many years of marriage. And yet there are many women who say that their 1950s turned out to be something of a sexual revolution, because of growing trust and new relationships with later living.

We asked five 50-like women to share their sex life with us, with a number of surprising revelations …

Twice a week: we slept in separate bedrooms for 19 years

PR -agent Julia Champion, 56, has been with Matt, 54, a businessman, and married for 16. They live in South Londs with their two daughters, 19 and 16. She says:

Many people believe that a ‘sleep -separating’ sounds the death bell of a marriage. But I am sure that separate bedrooms is the secret to maintain a fantastic sex life in your 50s.

Although not everyone has a guest room, if it is an option, I don’t see why more women don’t do this.

Matt and I did not sleep in the same bed because our 19-year-old was a baby.

It started so that we could both sleep if she was small – that way I would not disturb him if I breastfed her. We maintained it because we thought it worked for us.

We go to bed and get up at different times and he snores. In this way we don’t blame each other and we get a great night’s sleep.

What is even more important, our bedroom set -Up removes the monotony from sex.

If you have been together for more than two decades, this is a way to keep it exciting, in a way that would not be the case if we would share a bed.

Who wants to have sex first if you both have breath in the morning, or at night as the last when you are both shattered? Not me.

We have always had an equally matched sex drive. When we first met, via a dating website in 2003, we had sex when we saw each other, which sometimes was every day.

It is clear that after having children that was not possible. Nowadays we have sex once or twice a week and I see this as quality above quantity.

It helps that we both work from home and that things keep things spontaneous because we don’t have to limit sex until the beginning and the end of the day.

We don’t always do it in the bedroom and, depending on our moods we go to mine or his.

As a woman in my mid -50s I feel sexually confident – which is not the case for so many women my age – so I have to do something good!

No sex for six years: I was with Toyboys for years. Now I want a man my age

Maria Olson, 59, is divorced twice. She has two sons aged 15 and 36 and is a full -time caregiver for her autistic daughter, 32. She lives in Radlett, Hertfordshire. She says:

I have always had a healthy libido, so I am not ready to give up sex. The problem is after years of dating younger men, I would now prefer someone my own age, but I have found no one compatible – and with a sexual drive to match mine.

It is six years ago and I miss the intimacy. If I have a relationship, sex is a priority and I like to make my partners happy. Unfortunately there is no guarantee that you will always get it back!

I was 20 when I left Sweden. Like many Sweden, I don’t see sex as a taboo. I met my first husband a month after arrival in London and we got married nine months later. I was 20 and he was 25.

Our sex life kept us both satisfied. Yet it was a lonely marriage because he was always gone. I set up when I was 39.

Shortly thereafter I met my second husband on vacation in Turkey. He was 25 and I was 40 and we had a big sexual connection. He was not worried about our age difference and we married three months later. He returned with me to the UK and sexually we were very compatible – we would have sex every day.

Unfortunately he never settled in Hertfordshire and three years after I had our son, he returned to Turkey. It was a traumatic separation and I was deeply sad.

Two years later, 50 years old, I started to see another 25-year-old. Again, my age was no problem, but after three years we split. Six years later I have not met anyone since then.

My focus is on men my age, because I want someone to take care of me in the same way as I take care of them. But dating is hard work, especially around the care of my children.

Three times a week: After sex -dried I sleep again with my husband … and others

Relationship coach Angela Vossen, 53, is married and has three children from 13 to 23 years old. She lives in Warwickshire. She says:

I am married for 18 years; It is a second marriage for me.

We always had a good sex life, but three years ago I discovered that we could go without sex for weeks and it influenced the rest of our relationship.

When I started to see how we could improve things, my husband told me he had recently been unfaithful.

Although they had only seen each other a few times, it was still a shock and I was very upset. With the help of couple therapy we got the crisis point, but the next step was how to rebuild our sexual connection.

After I had lifted my friends, I discovered that a surprising number was in an open relationship or was identified as a polyamorous. A good friend of in fifty said she loved this way of life and that it had helped her long -term relationship.

I gave the idea to open our relationship in the spring of 2023.

He was open to it, so we started talking to friends who introduced us to an ethical non-monogamy (where a few relationships have with other people, according to previously graduated rules) social groups and apps.

My husband has seen a woman quite regularly for a year now. I met her; She is very independent and does not want to get married or have children.

As far as I’m concerned, I also occasionally have a sexual relationship with a male friend and sometimes I also have casual dates with other people.

My husband and I still have sex with each other a few times a week, although the quantity varies and we both feel more relaxed. Now we have other people in our lives, there is no pressure to meet each other’s needs.

Like many women, I had lost myself as a woman, being a mother and supporting my husband. This has given me a new life. I have lost weight, admitted healthier self -care habits and the way in which I change changed. It even inspired me to start my new company as a sex and relationship coach called Sextasy (sextasy.me).

Many relationships struggle when the couple comes the 50s and that often means things or divorce. But this third way is the one I am convinced of that it will be good for more people in the future.

Five times a week: it is important to make time for each other as you get older

Singer Stephanie Benson, 57, has been married for 36 years to business owner John, 65, 65. They have five children and live in East Sussex. She says:

During our 36-year-old marriage my husband and I worked hard to set fire to the sexual flame.

Nowadays our sex life is better than ever and I put that to experiment with everything, from role play to trying out new positions.

We met when we both worked for Diamond Company de Beers in London. We had our first child within a year after getting married, and we would still have sex regularly during those early childhood years. It helped me at home when we had the first three children.

My mother was very traditional. She did not approve of sex before marriage and would warn me that after I ‘do’, I should never be too tired for my husband.

But I would say that a husband should never be too tired for his wife. You use it or lose it. And without sex, a part of the glue that you keep together when a few disappears.

As I see it, he takes care of my other needs, such as doing my accounts or making my first cup of tea in the morning. The least I can do is initiate sex.

I don’t think I have a high libido, it’s just because I like to be with John.

When I used to travel and sang and sang the world, when I was away for more than two weeks, John would fly outside to be with me because our sexual connection is paramount.

We have had our moments when sex took a back seat. In 2015 I underwent a preventive double mastectomy and was also advised to have a hysterectomy.

Recovery lasted six months, but we didn’t wait that long to be intimate – there are ways to please your loved one except penetrating sex.

Friends are surprised that we are still so close. But although we have had our ups and downs, we spend a lot of time on our feelings.

Before we go to sleep, we always kiss and say ‘I love you’.

In fact, we say those three magical words several times a day.

Once a week: I was crushed by Andy’s death, but I enjoy dating with women

Entrepreneur Nicky Wake, 54, is a widow and has a son, 17. She lives in Manchester. She says:

I have always identified as bisexual. In my 1920s I went out with men and women and had a relationship with a Portuguese woman for two years. She broke my heart when she returned home.

But then I met the love of my life, my deceased husband Andy, in 2002. We got married in 2004 and had the most fantastic marriage, until he suffered a heart attack that resulted in a catastrophic brain injury in 2017 at the age of just 54 years.

It left him deeply disabled and needs full -time specialist care. Unfortunately, the physical side of our relationship was also over and I finally lost him to Covid in 2020.

What surprised me after Andy died was that I a lot to physical comfort and I desired someone to share my bed, a phenomenon that I now know is called Widow’s Fire.

The first time I slept with someone – a man – six months later, I weeping because I had not touched intimate in four years. It was a one -off, but it felt good to find sexual comfort in the arms of another person.

Since then I have set dating apps to help widows in search of love or intimacy, chapter 2 and widowfire.

Now dating, I am always in advance that I am bisexual. I have no serious relationship and I enjoy exploring my options. After losing Andy it somehow felt easier in women, because I didn’t feel the same memories of our love life.

Sex with women is also usually tender and more intimate. Most guys my age are on buying Viagra for sex. His biology leaves him down while I am still in my prime. I see one man once a week for sex – but we are both clear that it is not an exclusive attitude, so there are times when I also see someone else.

I would not have had the self -confidence to establish such rules when I was young, but as you get older, your self -confidence around your sexuality goes through the roof.

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