For two brotherhood brothers, an even stronger bond

Scott Hunter Malamut and Dr. Thomas Howe McConville met in January 2006 as members of the same fraternity at Cornell University.

“Thomas and I were among 45 fraternity brothers and under 30 brothers who lived in the dorm, where we hung out a lot,” said Mr. Malamut, 35, who earned a bachelor’s degree in economics and is a general manager in real estate investor relations and business development at the Blackstone Group, a private equity firm in New York

While living together, Dr. McConville, also 35, that “we learned a lot about each other and became really good friends.”

About what brought him to Dr. McConville, Mr Malamut said, “In Thomas I found someone who was super funny and witty. But no matter how much he messed up, he always remained driven.”

dr. McConville described Mr. Malamut as a kindred charismatic spirit. “Everyone loved Scott, he was always the center of the party,” says Dr. McConville, who graduated magna cum laude, received a medical degree from Columbia University and is now an assistant professor of medicine at Columbia University Irving Medical Center in the United States. distribution of infectious diseases. He is also the winner of the 2015 New Jersey Marathon and the 2016 Delaware Marathon.

Before long, their friendship evolved into something more romantic. “In April 2007, we were dating,” said Dr. McConville. He was a junior, Mr. Malamut was a sophomore and they no longer lived together. But they didn’t disclose their relationship publicly, and they wouldn’t do that until “about two years after we graduated,” Dr. McConville said.

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Mr. Malamut, who grew up in Linwood, NJ, and Dr. McConville, who grew up in Pound Ridge, NY, explained their choice not to immediately make their romance public by citing recent history. “This was 2007, before Barack Obama was elected, and he and Hillary Clinton were arguing about their nomination and neither of them supported same-sex marriage,” said Mr. Malamut.

They moved in together again in June 2009, to an apartment in Manhattan. About three years later, in May 2012, they were ready to disclose their relationship, which Dr. McConville “just kept getting better and better”.

“By waiting a few years, by the time we finally got out, everyone was cool with it,” said Dr. McConville. “I’m not sure if some of our friends had discovered it yet.”

The couple decided to plan a wedding during a trip to Chile’s Atacama Desert in January 2019, where they had what Mr. Malamut called a “very anti-climactic” engagement. They had initially set a date for May 2020, but the coronavirus pandemic led them to postpone it twice.

After moving the date to April 2021, they postponed the date again to December 31, 2021, when they finally got married at Basilica Hudson, an event space in Hudson, NY. , all vaccinated. Among them were the parents of Dr. McConville, Mary R. McConville and Paul D. McConville of Pound Ridge, NY, and the mother and stepfather of Mr. Malamut, Renee Kelleher and Mark Kelleher of Egg Harbor Township, NJ (his father, William Malamut, who is a member of the same fraternity in Cornell as the grooms, passed away.)

“What Thomas is adding to this relationship is a drive to keep things moving forward,” said Mr. Malamut a week after the wedding. “He’s super hardworking and extremely goal-oriented.”

When asked what he thinks is the best quality of his new husband, Dr. McConville said without hesitation, “He’s the only person in the world who can put up with me.”

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