Groom reveals a common wedding tradition that insulted the ‘loose’ family members of his bride – who compared the marriages with a ‘fundraising’

A groom revealed that the wedding guests of his wife were ‘offended’ and felt ‘cheap’ during their big day because of a surprising detail.

Take to RedditThe man, who is supposed to be from the US, explained that he and his bride make both six -digit salaries and not asked for gifts or money from their wedding guests.

The newlywed even attempted to write ‘gifts are not required, your presence is the greatest present’ on the invitations to ensure that there was absolutely no misunderstanding.

However, they left a box away to greet cards on the reception table for guests who wanted them on their big day.

The family members of the bride, however, misinformed it as a “subtle way to ask for money” and felt obliged to put cash and checks in the card box – and said the wedding felt like a “fundraiser.”

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‘To give a context, my wife and I are lucky to both make six digits (salaries). We also lived together for a year for our engagement and wedding, so we already had all the household things we needed and did not really feel that we wanted to ask for more.

“So for our wedding we deliberately had no register and in our invitation we specifically said:” Gifts are not required, your presence is the greatest present. ”

A groom revealed on Reddit that the wedding guests of his wife were ‘offended’ and felt ‘cheap’ during their big day because of a surprising detail (stock image)

‘We have also done this to minimize the costs for our guests, hoping that as many of our friends and family will come and celebrate with us.

‘We have a card box at the reception table, for guests to write [their wishes] And slide their cards in.

He continued: ‘Apparently some family members of my wife thought it was a subtle way to ask for money (it wasn’t), so they felt obliged to place cash and checks in the envelopes.

‘Afterwards my wife and I heard them complain to my [mother-in-law] That it felt cheap, such as the wedding was a fundraising or a transaction.

‘My wife almost burst into tears, so I switched and clarified that money was not asked or desired. I offered to give them back their envelopes so that they could remove their money.

“They refused because” what was done is done. ” Made the entire wedding uncomfortable (for us and they had other people no idea). Gave me the feeling that there are no good deeds left with impunity. ‘

Many hurried to the comments to claim that a map box is ‘very common’ at weddings and it does not mean that you ask for money.

One person wrote: ‘Put off a card box for a wedding is extremely common. Almost every wedding I have been to has had one.

‘Giving money as a gift instead of a gift is quite common and usually expected. Your wife’s family has been released. ‘

Another said, “I was told by my location that I had to have one.”

Someone else added: ‘Yes, many locations actually require a card box to set out the liability reasons: guests will bring envelopes with money and there must be a clear and safe place to place them.

“Often the area where the box is placed on a welcome table has even aimed at a security camera.”

A fourth added: ‘Yup, I used to do event decor/flower gland and for this reason we kept extra card boxes to hand.

‘I think many locations are on it because it makes it less difficult to detect missing maps. It is a bit of a “not very safe, but slightly better than the alternative” security measure. ”

Another added: ‘Every wedding I have been to has had a box with a kind of cards. At no time did I feel that I had to make a contribution (although I always do that). This is really a problem. ‘

Others suggested that the couple should email the money back to the guests or to give it to a good cause.

One person said, “Mail when you open the cards, send the money back to each of them.”

Another said: ‘Yes, just add a note that you appreciate the thought, but the box was for wishes to be cherished in the future and not for the goal they thought.

“That’s it. I would have clarified nothing and have done that as soon as I heard. Oh you gave money?

‘Sorry that was good for wishing. We misunderstood each other. With a big smile at the top. I hope you had a great time and let’s have other nice parties in the future! That’s it! ‘

Someone else added: ‘That will make them even more angry. You can’t win. I would donate to a charity from the choice of OPs and the woman and the cash guivers send thank you, let us know. ‘

Another said: ‘Donate the money to a good cause? Maybe your wife’s family would not normally support. Then let everyone know that you have chosen to do that with the contributions. ‘