How to Close the ‘Orgasm Gap’ with 9 Sex Tips, From Sleeping Naked to Wearing Socks
ARE YOU TIRED OF PRETENDING? You’re not alone.
Going all out for love with your partner is special, but the odds are not always equal.
9
On average, men experience orgasms during sex 20 percent more often than women.
And it doesn’t stop there, because research has shown that almost a quarter of women reach the finish line independently every week, compared to almost half of men.
This is what is known as the “orgasm gap.”
So with National Orgasm Day coming up on Wednesday next one week, we are on a mission to close it.
But it’s not just your sexual skills you may need to sharpen.
From carrying socks in your pocket to painting your walls purple, Sun Sexpert Georgette Culley reveals nine quirky sex tips that’ll have you screaming, “Yes, yes, yes!”
1. WEAR SOCKS TO BED
9
The modest cotton ones may seem the least sexy to wear when you’re trying to seduce your partner, but research shows they can actually spice up your sex life.
Keeping your feet warm stimulates blood circulation, including to the erogenous zones. This increases sensitivity and increases your chances of reaching a climax.
2. PERFECT TEMPERATURE
9
WHEN it comes to reaching the G-spot, temperature is key.
You don’t want to be too hot or too cold, as this can be uncomfortable and decrease your chances of climaxing.
Experts believe that the perfect room temperature is 20 degrees Celsius, which is equivalent to 21 degrees Celsius.
So grab a thermometer and get the room just right before you seduce your partner. It’s science, baby.
3. HAVE A HOT CUP OF TEA
9
MOST of us have a drink to relax between the sheets, but alcohol slows down the nervous system, making orgasms harder to achieve.
On the other hand, a nice cup of tea or coffee gets your nervous system going.
Research shows that caffeine can help men perform better in the bedroom by increasing testosterone levels and reducing the risk of erectile dysfunction.
4. GO FOR BANANAS
9
The phallic fruit has long been associated with sex, but bananas aren’t all style and no substance.
They are packed with nutrients, including potassium, which can boost testosterone production, a hormone that increases your sex drive and helps you last longer in bed.
So the next time you’re planning a sultry evening, don’t forget to eat a banana or two.
5. SLEEP NAKED
9
IF you take off your comfy pajamas, you can spice up your sex life and strengthen your bond with your partner.
Skin-to-skin contact promotes the production of oxytocin, the love hormone, which reduces stress and increases intimacy.
Sleeping naked can also lead to more spontaneous moments of passion, reducing pressure and increasing the chances of orgasm.
What’s not to love?
6. MAKE YOUR SHEETS SEXY
9
IF you turn up the heat in the bedroom, breathable sheets are a must.
Natural or semi-natural materials such as cotton, bamboo, Tencel, modal, silk and linen are ideal.
Avoid sheets made from 100% polyester, as they can be hot and rough.
And stay away from synthetic satin ones, as they are slippery, warm and don’t absorb sweat well.
Research shows that the more comfortable you feel, the more likely you are to have an orgasm.
7. MAKE SURE THE ROOM SMELLS GOOD
9
FRAGRANCE is a game-changer in the bedroom, and we’re not just talking about your partner’s perfume or aftershave.
Lavender, the unsung hero, can help you relax, improve your mood, and reduce anxiety and depression – perfect for boosting libido and, yes, even improving erections, research shows.
Whether you choose an aromatherapy burner or secretly add a few drops of lavender oil under your pillow, you’re on your way to a more fragrant and, ahem, fruitful night.
8. PAINT THE WALLS PURPLE
9
FORGET to paint the walls red, purple is the real sexy color.
A study of 2,000 adults found that the amount of sex people had varied depending on the color of their bedroom and bedding.
People with purple rooms got it turned on about 3.49 times per week, followed by red (3.18), sky blue (3.14), pink (3.02) and black (2.99).
So grab a brush and a pot of purple paint, and you might just get lucky more often.
9. TAKE A COLD SHOWER
SURPRISINGLY, taking a cold shower before sex can boost your libido, research shows.
Cold water therapy can increase testosterone levels and improve sexual health, making it a win-win for both sexes.
So the next time you want to turn up the heating, skip the hot bath and take a cold shower instead.
Don’t mention it.
‘WOMEN CAN EXPAND PROBLEMS’
By Lizzie Cundy
UNFORTUNATELY, I wasn’t surprised to hear about the orgasm gap between the sexes. If I’m honest, I would have thought it could have been bigger, based on the men I date.
Most men are so eager to get their way – the ass and the run, I call it – that they don’t really think about what their significant other wants in the bedroom.
Half the fun between the sheets is pleasing your lover, but men think mostly of themselves and that’s because they are among the more selfish types.
Let’s face it: men are more selfish than women and that needs to change.
Most people don’t think about what they can do to turn a woman on. They don’t put the time and effort into it. It’s wham, bam, thank you ma’am, instead of, “Let’s have a nice evening and let me ask you what you want.”
That doesn’t happen often, especially with the men I date.
It’s high time guys put women first. And guys, I have a secret for you: if you give your lady a really good time, she might want to do it again. It’s a win-win.
I am no stranger to bad sex. I once had a boyfriend who had no idea about sex in bed. I would tell him, “I like this…” but he would do it so hard that I remember describing him to a friend as a lawnmower. He would start off slow, but once he got going, he would go like a rocket. It was too much.
I think some men are just clueless, rather than selfish. So if that’s the case, ladies, it’s up to you to explain what you like. I believe everyone can improve with a little coaching.
Vicious circle
You have to say, “Actually, honey, honey, I like it a lot better this way.” That’s okay, and knowing what the other person likes will bring you closer together. In the long run, you’ll have a better, stronger relationship.
Sex isn’t always like in the movies, where everything is perfect. You have to make it fun and not think about it too much.
Us ladies really need to stop faking it. Every woman I know does it to make her man feel like he is doing it right, but we are contributing to the problem.
Men leave thinking they are some kind of Adonis who has done a great job, when they haven’t.
But I get it, women use it as a way to get things over with because they don’t enjoy it. It’s a vicious circle.
It’s better to be honest with your boyfriend, but at the same time keep your sense of humor and let him know how he can please you.
Men may not want to talk about it, but if you don’t communicate and make it fun, it can all end in disaster.
Without a healthy sex life most relationships go downhill. My mother always said it’s either sex or money that destroys a marriage.
I have seen time and time again, in women I know, that an unsatisfactory sex life can lead to divorce.
If the woman is not aroused, the intimacy between a couple will decrease and eventually it is the sex addicted man who will have had enough.
When a woman thinks, “Let’s just get this over with quickly,” as so many do, it can lead to a breakup. And all because the woman is not getting what she needs.
Men could live the life they love if they put a little more effort into it, because then their wives will want it more often and everyone will be happy.
Come on guys, you can do better.
You should do your best so we can refine these statistics as quickly as possible.
Or maybe you’re lying alone in your bed.
