I am more attractive than my husband, but he cheated on me with his ‘ugly’ coworker
A WOMAN sought advice after discovering her husband had cheated on her with his ‘ugly and old’ colleague.
According to a 2024 Forbes Advisor survey40% of people have cheated on their partner with a colleague, and a whopping 50% reported flirting with their colleagues.
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Because romance in the workplace on the riseA devastated woman has posted on Reddit, unsure if her husband’s actions will spell the end of their marriage.
According to the heartbroken woman, her partner, who works for the federal police, had been unfaithful to her during a training mission a few summers ago.
The colleague, she claimed in the postwas 40 – or ten years older than her husband, 30.
The cheating husband said they had only had sex “once” and the wife’s suspicions grew when she noticed his phone sending more and more messages.
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”When asked about this new girlfriend, he said, “She’s ugly and old, don’t worry. I’ll stop talking to her if it makes you uncomfortable.”
”He didn’t speak to her for five months until I went on a work trip.
“He must have been horny or bored because he contacted her on his work phone where I couldn’t see her. However, he later felt comfortable enough to contact her on his personal device… while I was sleeping next to him.”
She later found out that in the messages, the coworkers were “reminiscing about the great sex they’d had and wishing they’d had more time together.”
In order to make his wife less suspicious of his infidelity, the cunning man is also said to have saved the woman’s contact details under the name ‘Roach’. This should dissuade the woman from thinking it was her.
The anonymous writer, who is also the mother of their little one, shared the heartbreaking story and said she was the main breadwinner in their family.
”Higher on the attractiveness scale: high libido, excellent housewife, great cook, usually the woman his friends would like to have.”
Despite her great features and character, the 29-year-old woman explained that she has experienced a “terrible childhood trauma” that makes her “unattractive” to her partner.
She courageously shared how the traumatic events affected her and their relationship.
”My temper, especially when I was triggered, caused me to say and do horrible things to him.
“I have had two years of intensive therapy and I take responsibility for the fact that my unresolved emotional state and moodiness has caused him significant harm.
“Honestly, I hate myself and I understand why he cheated.”
After the cheating scandal came to light and nearly destroyed their marriage, the couple has done everything they can to make it work. It’s a journey with ups and downs.
Although the young mother feels much better “personally and emotionally”, the incident has left her scarred and damaged her trust in her children.
“I felt robbed in the sense that my marriage would never feel ‘safe’ again.
Four Red Flags That Your Partner Is Cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees Reveals Four Warning Signs Your Partner Is Cheating
They start taking their phones everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal for people to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone behavior changes, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, taking their phone everywhere, even into the house, or acts defensively when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign that they are not being faithful to you.”
“You also have to look at how they put their phone down when they’re not using it. If they put the phone face down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat, they may start to avoid you. This may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and doesn’t want to do things with you anymore, or doesn’t tell you about his or her day anymore, that’s another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid each other or share less about their day because cheating can be difficult. It’s impossible to remember all your lies and it’s easy to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
According to Aaron, your partner’s libido can change for a number of reasons, so it’s not necessarily a sign of cheating, but it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says, “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they’re cheating, but sometimes they have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You’ll also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and that it makes them feel good, but it can create tension and fear in them that they then have to justify.
“To release the tension they feel inside, they try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, didn’t do the dishes, or read your kids a bedtime story. A small issue like this can now feel like a big one, and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
”I think about his cheating daily. He has taken every step necessary to ensure he doesn’t make the “mistake” again, such as no social media, phone access, etc. Our marriage, sex life and personal relationship are great, but sometimes it feels like I’m fighting a losing battle.
“It sticks in the back of my mind and I can’t forgive (or forget) it.”
It’s not just the woman who’s afraid her husband will cheat on her again; dozens of other Redditors warned her as well.
Someone said, “He’s not worth it. He ruined your marriage for a quick fuck and would do it again.
”No regrets about the great sex they had.
“I have no doubt he will do it again. It will drive you crazy if he is on his phone too much or if one of you has to travel. Your emotional state will always be on edge.”
Another agreed, urging the 29-year-old to end the marriage.
“I personally would just file for divorce. I truly believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. Plus, the trust is broken forever.”
