I caught my husband sexting – he has OnlyFans, but Snapchat gave it away

A WOMAN has revealed her husband cheated on her and sexted strangers throughout their marriage.

The mother confessed that she had been married to her husband for the past eleven years, and although she was open when he joined OnlyFans, it was his Snapchat that betrayed his infidelity.

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But the stay-at-home mom shared her uncertainty about what to do in this situation, explaining that she doesn’t have friends or finances to leave the relationship.

Posting on social media, the confused woman opened up about the situation, leaving many open-mouthed.

Posting on Reddit, on the r/TwoHotTakes thread, the anonymous woman wrote under the username @Living_a_nightmare12 and titled her post “Just found out my husband of 11 years cheated/sexted with strangers throughout our marriage.”

She then added, “Everyone thinks he’s so great, and so do I. I can’t tell anyone because I don’t want to hurt him. So I come here to get some advice.”

The woman, 39, said she met her husband, 38, in high school and they now have two children together.

But her husband’s actions have left her devastated, as she wrote: ‘A week ago I found out that my husband has been cheating on me throughout our 11-year marriage.

“The cheating involves sexting with strangers on Snapchat. As he says, “It’s just strange that he had common interests without anything physical,” but all these relationships were all sexual – they talked about nothing but sex and sent photos and videos of each other.

“I grew up in a divorced home where my father cheated on my mother, and he knows how much trust and honesty means to me and how much cheating disgusts me.

“We were together a long time before we got married because that union was so scary for me.

“I never wanted to experience anything like my mother. I witnessed her pain through young eyes and never wanted that for me future family.

“I thought I had discovered that I was with my best friend and believed that we were on the same page, that I would never question his loyalty and faithfulness to me. I would have bet everything I had on it.

“I’ve known him for more than half my life and this has come as a complete shock and has literally turned my world upside down.

“I’ve read all these stories about men cheating on their wives and never thought that would be me. And that makes this so difficult and truly incredible for me.

“I gave up so much to become a SAHM because that’s what we both wanted for our children.”

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it might not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

The woman explained that her husband had started OnlyFans in an attempt to make some extra money, adding: “He had started OnlyFans and I was completely open to it. Why not make some money?

“I am an open person and have never given him a reason not to be the same way towards me.

I found way more than expected, email accounts I knew nothing about, a Snapchat account I knew nothing about

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“One of his messages alerted me and gave me a strange feeling inside. It went along the lines of ‘if you’re bored, come talk to me’. I know he wouldn’t get paid for that, so I didn’t understand why he would chat with people for free.”

But it was his Snapchat account that really revealed his deceitful actions, as she continued: “I called that night for the first time I had done this since we were married.

“I found a lot more than expected: email accounts I didn’t know about, a Snapchat account I didn’t know about, and all of these accounts are from a long time ago, as is the conversation, and I’ve read them all.”

As a result, she cried, “I’m literally broken! I had to think a lot and didn’t talk to anyone. That’s why I’m reaching out here for help.

“I’m embarrassed and ashamed to tell anyone. I also don’t want my husband to look like a bad person. Love is not a switch that I can just turn off.”

I now realize the price you have to pay when you give up everything for your family

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Unsure what to do, the woman wrote, “When I was thinking about my options, divorce was definitely on the cards, and leaving him was out there. Then the reality of those decisions became clearer. Where would I go?

“I don’t earn the money, what would I do? My family doesn’t live close by, and I’m a SAHM who no longer has any close friends except my husband and I’ve never needed anything more until now.

‘I now realize the price of giving up everything for your family, at least the downside. My husband begged me not to leave and said he would do whatever it took to make things right.”

As a result, she shared her cunning plan, as she confessed, “So I googled what to do and saw and read about prenups. I have come up with one that states whether I am staying as expected and also gives me space.

“I also put a clause in it stating that if he cheated on me again, he would lose his rights to our children and that he would pay half of his income to me for child support, among other things.

“One of the main reasons for staying is my children, I don’t want them to be thrown between two parents. I also don’t want to miss anything in their lives and if I left my husband I would definitely miss things.

“I am looking for help and understanding because I have no one and feel completely broken, any advice is wanted and needed. Am I doing the right thing?”

REDDIT USERS REACT

Reddit users flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation – with many left stunned by the woman’s confession.

Your husband cheated on you throughout your marriage and you don’t want to hurt him? Yes

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One person said: “You don’t want to hurt him? He’s a piece of shit. Document everything!

“And start drawing up an escape plan. Make sure you get copies of all your documents and see if you have access to money.”

Another added: “Sorry but why don’t you want to hurt him? He hurt you!”

A third commented: ‘Your husband has cheated on you your entire marriage and you don’t want to hurt him? Yes.”

While someone else interjected: “You don’t want to hurt him. He has no respect for you or your marriage/family/children. Time to go.”