I cheated on my intern and it saved my marriage – people say I’m delusional
A MAN has told how he believes his affair has improved his marriage.
After one of the husbands revealed that he had had sex with another woman, he noticed a change in his wife’s behavior. He said this was positive.
In a Reddit afterThe anonymous man spoke at length about his infidelity, which he said benefited his marriage in the long run.
He said he has been with his wife for 12 years and described her as “the most beautiful and perfect girl I have ever met.”
“There was never anything wrong with our marriage, she was the ideal woman,” the Reddit user wrote.
However, his loyalty was tested when a 19-year-old intern joined his family’s company.
The married man described the young woman as “stunning” and said she is “the kind of beauty that shows that.”
He explained that she gave him a lot of attention at the office, which led to inappropriate interactions.
“It started with her flirting with me for a while, touching me gently and laughing at my lame jokes,” he recalls.
“Slowly it went from lunch dates to texting and eventually I slept with her during a company outing.”
After cheating on his wife, the man felt so bad that he immediately went home and confessed to his crime.
He offered his wife a divorce and “anything she wanted,” including their cars, house and alimony.
She said that was the last thing she wanted [and] “She knows it was a one-time occurrence and that I wouldn’t do it again,” he explained.
The man described how their relationship was “different” a year after the incident.
He said he tried to make amends in every possible way, but he also acknowledged the change in his wife’s behavior.
“She’s always gone the extra mile herself, she’s always been a loving and loyal wife, but I think she’s gone a little bit further,” he said.
“She cooks more often, comes to my work for lunch more often and pays more attention to her appearance. [with the] gym and makeup.”
Four Red Flags That Your Partner Is Cheating
Private investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.
They start taking their phones everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal for people to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone behavior changes, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, taking their phone everywhere, even into the house, or acts defensively when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign that they are not being faithful to you.”
“You also have to look at how they put their phone down when they’re not using it. If they put the phone face down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat, they may start to avoid you. This may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and doesn’t want to do things with you anymore, or doesn’t tell you about his or her day anymore, that’s another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid each other or share less about their day because cheating can be difficult. It’s impossible to remember all your lies and it’s easy to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
According to Aaron, your partner’s libido can change for a number of reasons, so it’s not necessarily a sign of cheating, but it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says, “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they’re cheating, but sometimes they have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You’ll also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and that it makes them feel good, but it can create tension and fear in them that they then have to justify.
“To release the tension they feel inside, they try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, didn’t do the dishes, or read your kids a bedtime story. A small issue like this can now feel like a big one, and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
The Reddit user said his wife never brought up his infidelity. “It was like nothing ever happened,” the man said.
“It feels like we’re in the honeymoon phase again with all the attention I’m getting,” he wrote.
He even explained that his wife had left a bachelorette party early because there were male strippers present.
“I’ve been very happy lately, but there’s still a little part of me that whispers, ‘You don’t deserve her,’” he said.
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments.
“My husband, the relationship has not improved in any way. Please don’t try to justify your cheating,” wrote one reader.
“You destroyed her self-confidence, she doesn’t do that for you. She does all that because she is constantly afraid that you will cheat on her again.”
“She just takes better care of herself and worries more [about] “She didn’t make her appearance for herself, she made it because of you,” another person agreed.
“She does all that because she believes that otherwise you’ll just go after another young girl.”
“Good job. Now your wife will never feel confident or comfortable with you again. You destroyed her,” a third Redditor commented.