I didn’t invite my fiance’s colleague to our wedding – he thinks I’m jealous

A WOMAN who didn’t invite one of her fiancé’s colleagues to their wedding has revealed why she did so.

After spending the better part of a year carefully planning the big day, the 29-year-old confessed that her husband-to-be’s “work wife” had cast a shadow over the whole affair.

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They have been working together for thirty years and are quite close, she admitted on Reddit.

In fact, they spend a lot of time messaging each other, which makes the wife-to-be feel like a third wheel in her own relationship.

But at the couple’s engagement party, things got worse when she overheard her partner and his “work wife” talking.

She apparently told him he could “always marry me instead,” leaving the woman stunned.

Then the bride-to-be decided not to invite her to the wedding.

“At first I was honestly relieved that he had a good friend at work, especially since his job can be demanding and a bit isolating,” she wrote on Reddit.

“I tried to be the cool, understanding partner who didn’t worry about how close they were.

“But over time, their bond became… well, it became something that I just can’t deal with.”

The bride added that their relationship is not always appropriate as they often talk late at night and share inside jokes.

“She knows things about him that sometimes I don’t, and it hurts to realize how often he turns to her for advice and laughs instead of me.

“My fiancé assures me that they are just friends, that she is his work wife, and that it is no problem.

“But I feel like she’s gotten so close that sometimes I’m the one on the outside looking in,” she added.

The worker even objected to the wedding venue when she found out where it would take place, as well as the flowers because “he never liked bright colors.”

And her doubts about the big day didn’t stop there; she even told the bride future her husband would not like her dress because she “knew his style”.

The bride said she tried to laugh it off, but her little pricks hurt and left her feeling insecure about her relationship.

Things finally came to a head at the engagement party when she overheard their conversation and felt left out again.

After the party, she confronted her partner about the comment, but he brushed it off, saying his work wife was “just playing around.”

She said: “I felt like I was going crazy, like maybe I was seeing something that wasn’t there, but…how would anyone be okay with hearing that from someone so close to their fiancée?”

She then decided to withdraw her invitation to the big day because she was getting too close for comfort, but her partner disagreed.

He hit back, saying not inviting her now would “damage his reputation at work.”

Fellow Reddit users told the bride it was right not to invite her, with some noting that their relationship sounded like an “emotional affair.”

One said: “Her comments are completely inappropriate, and your fiancée’s willingness to take her side and choose her over you is deeply concerning.

“I can absolutely predict that on the day of the wedding she will try to get into everything.”

And another agreed: ‘He sees the situation as one where he has to choose between the two women. He already places his colleague on the same level as his fiancée; meaning that he is not committed to the fundamental premise of marriage, which is to forsake all others.

“He has no idea of ​​emotional boundaries and needs some training.”

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it might not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a red flag.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.