I give my daughter a £ 27 allowance a week, but my son nothing – I think it’s fair

A mother-of-two fueled a debate online after she has revealed that she gives her daughter $ 60 (£ 27) a week, but her son nothing.

Take to RedditThe woman who comes from Auckland, New -Zeelandexplained that she Recently moved with her children to live closer to her parents because of their declining health.

The 45-year-old, who has a 17-year-old daughter and 14-year-old son, revealed that her daughter has adapted well to the move, but her son is struggling and misses his friends, despite the fact that they visit them every two weeks.

Because of the move, however, the mother explained that she now works from home three days a week and had to create an office space for herself.

She explained: ‘My bedroom is too small, and the only options were the lounge or one of the children’s rooms during school hours.

‘I introduced this to them, my son refused downright (‘ no way in hell ‘), but my daughter offered her room and held half of the charging of me for the room. I thought it was fair because I got a work of $ 20/day.

‘I agreed to give it to her if she thought it was good to set up a small office in her room. I work from 8:30 to 5:00, and she usually starts homework immediately after I finish, so it worked out well.

‘I did not immediately agree with the deal with my daughter. I first offered it to my son, who repeated ‘hell no’ and ‘removed the f *** from my room’ ‘.

However, this has really upheld her son because he thinks he should get an equal fee and he started a fight with his sister about it.

The mother explained that she gave both children the same chance, but her son refused to let her use his room.

She said: “I told him he had the same chance and now had bad luck. He got angry and brought the move forward and said he never gets to see his friends.

‘For the record, I drive them back to visit every two weeks for visits. I told him that I understood his feelings, but said that I would not tolerate that I would be spoken as S ** t.

“He also started a fight with his sister – on her because he was an opportunistic b **** and she called him a nagging little hole.

‘To cool down, I offered one of them the option to stay with their grandparents for the night – not as a punishment but to break the tension.

“My son chose to go and while he dropped him, my mother told me that I preferred my daughter and had to pay them right away. My father did not agree and said that my son had the chance and was out of luck. ‘

Ask for any advice about the situation that the mother turned to social media gave contradictory advice.

Many suggested that her son had to do odd jobs in the house to work for the same amount.

One person wrote: ‘She didn’t favor her at all. He has the chance to do this himself and said: ‘Hell no’ he does not want to give up his space or privacy. The daughter was willing to do this. And after a joke about rent.

“The OP clearly saw that as a good idea. And from what I collect. She still gave him the chance to say yes. But he repeated ‘hell no’.

“It’s not as if she gives her daughter money for nothing. That teenage girl has given up her space and privacy.

‘So it is fair that she is compensated for that. The son is angry because he did not want to move, his friends want to see for more than once for two weeks. And wants money for nothing. He didn’t want to give up anything to spend money. But he is angry that his sister did.

‘If he wants money so badly, he has to do something for it. And don’t expect it alone. ‘

Another said: ‘Moreover, the daughter connects to support the room in a state where it is usable for the work of the mother.

‘Things must be out of the way. Private things should generally be out of sight, and especially if mum is going to have a video call, because people can see the room.

‘Daughter agrees to shape the routine of her life around the lives of Mothers in a way that son does not have to think at all. Paying her a bit is not outrageous.

“If Son wants to take on a couple of extra chores or something, so he also earns some money, fine.”

Someone else said: ‘The son had the choice. I know that people nowadays don’t like the consequences of their actions, but maybe it’s time for her son (and you) to grow up. ‘

A fourth added: ‘Yes, her son is out of her own pocket and is incredibly disrespectful. I am stunned about the comments that say that I have to bend back for him or also give him money for doing nothing. This is why there are now so many ***** entitled men in society. ‘

Another added: ‘The same thing came and the range of your daughter is also an act of kindness. And you paid her for her sacrifice was also friendly.

“Your son chose to be selfish and should not be rewarded for it. Maybe your son should consider this a learning opportunity to be friendly without expectations.

“He really has to learn that he will not just get his way by getting out and calling his sister’s different words when she was a nice person.

Not at all. Don’t let the moving situation influence you. I am sure you feel bad for him, but you spend gas money and time to drive him to still see his friends. That’s a bit of you. ‘

Someone else added: ‘Offer your son a’ job ‘, such as weekly, a few things to do. They can be things such as getting waste or gardening or even vacuuming. In this way he also has the chance to receive money. ‘

Others, however, believed that the mother was unfair and blamed her for the ‘upgrading’ of the lives of the children.

One person said: ‘You said he had trouble adapting – that is the only safe space he currently has.

‘Everyone, especially a teenager, will get a knee shock reaction to a suggestion that his space can be invaded.

‘You have uprooted his life – and because of its noise, he does not have the income to socialize with someone else outside of school, even if he is invited.

“You must have known the limitations in advance and this should have been discussed before you move.”

Another said: ‘The fact that you say he has closed himself in his room speaks volumes. Your child is incredibly unhappy and you add.

“You have not tackled whether you provide your son funds to socialize outside of school – or acknowledges that it might be his only ‘safe’ space or the only place where he is comfortable. ‘

Someone else wrote: ‘You play it here a bit quickly and loose. Your son may have offered his space if there was $ 60/week on the table.

‘It is true that your daughter has made the offer without a promise of payment, but you have turned around and delivered her compensation for the favor. Do you see how that works, son?

“I think you should be responsible for that, Mom.”

Another added: ‘Yta. You have made a problem where none had to be made. You should have used the lounge because the children are not at home at the time.

“Giving a child the best part of $ 240 a month, but your other child gets nothing and then you tell that other child they have” bad luck “a level of BS is that no parent should reach.

‘You have to find a way to match this. Follow the $ 60pW between them by having your son also do something or also pay your son $ 60pW for something.

“There is really enough rivalry between brothers and sisters without their parent adding more hostility to the mix.”