I had three kids before I was 25 – trolls criticize me but I’ll laugh when I’m 40
A WOMAN has revealed she had three children before she turned 25.
Cheyenne Drover, from California, US, said internet trolls said she had ‘ruined’ her life by having children at a young age.
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However, the brunette beauty hit back at the haters who doubted her and was eager to justify why she chose to have children as a teenager.
While the age of consent in the UK is 16, Bureau for National StatisticsThe average age of mothers giving birth in England and Wales is 30.9 years – almost six years older than Cheyenne was when she had three children.
The content creator, who has a whopping 208,400 followers on TikTok, shared a message on social media for “all the young mother haters”.
The mother of three claimed that doubters often criticised her decision to become a young mother, telling her: “You ruined your life by having children so young.”
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But Cheyenne, clearly unfazed by the rude comment, responded eagerly by saying, “It’s my life, not yours.”
Posing in a white crop top that revealed her full breasts and stomach, she flipped haters the middle finger.
After this she claimed that she was glad she had children at a young age, because then, unlike older mothers, she could still enjoy her forties.
The influencer, whose arms are covered in tattoos, then lashed out at older parents.
She wrote: “All my kids will be independent by the time I’m 40, while you’re changing butts and making bottles.”
She added: “To each his own.”
The TikTok clip, which was posted under the username @cheyenne raiderhas clearly caused quite a stir, as the video has already been viewed 42,800 times.
What does the law say?
The legal age of consent in the UK is 16.
The law is there to protect young people from abuse, harm and exploitation by adults.
There is no intention to criminalise young people and there is no intention to prosecute people under the age of 16 if both parties agree (consent) and if they are approximately the same age.
However, children under the age of 13 are considered too young to give consent.
Therefore, any sexual activity with someone under the age of 13 is illegal and is considered rape, sexual abuse or assault.
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Children between the ages of 13 and 15 are therefore unlikely to be prosecuted, as long as there is no significant age difference between the partners and the sex is consensual.
Many young mothers agreed with Cheyenne and filled the comments with their own stories about having children at a young age.
One person simply said, “Agreed.”
Which areas in the UK have the highest teenage pregnancy rates?
- Middleburg (43.8)
- St Helens (37.1)
- Halton (34.9)
- Hartlepool (33.2)
- North East Lincolnshire (33.2)
- Blackpool (32.9)
- Hyndburn (32.8)
- Kingston at Hull (32.7)
- Norwich (31.3)
- Salford (30.7)
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Another added: “I had my daughter when I was 17 and now she’s 26 with three kids and I’m still young enough to have fun with it.”
A third commented: “Same, my forties are going to be the best.”
This is why I love being a young mom
Tracy Kiss, who became pregnant at the age of 19, has revealed what she believes are the perks of being a young mother.
The Buckinghamshire personal trainer and blogger believes women who give birth in their teens make BETTER mothers than those who give birth in their 30s.
She claims that new mothers get back into shape faster, have more energy and are better with their children, which means they behave better and are happier.
Tracy told Fabulous: “Women who become mothers for the first time in their teens are better parents than women who are in their 30s or 40s.
“I think if I had been 10 years old or older before I became a mother, I wouldn’t have the relationship I have with my children now.
“To start with, as I got older I had less energy and therefore less patience.
“After months of sleepless nights, I wouldn’t be as excited to talk to people as I was when I was a teenager.
“My body got back to its pre-pregnancy size after giving birth through exercise, which gave me the confidence to date and find love again. I’ve never been happier than I am now, at 30 with two kids.
“If I had been alone with a newborn at 40, I would be more tired, less happy with my body, less energetic, and much more stressed by the shock of living for myself instead of putting others first. Sometimes age and the innocence of ignorance is a good thing.
“As a teenage mother, I just rolled with it, found my groove and became responsible and capable because at that point I didn’t know any better.”
At the same time, someone else wrote: “Every parent has their own thing!!
“I had my first at 21 and my second at 24! My sister doesn’t want kids until she’s 35.”
Meanwhile, one mother explained: “We can live more with our children! I had mine when I was 20 and 22!”
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