I hate my baby’s name and can’t pronounce it – my partner was adamant
CHOOSING a baby name can be tricky and choosing the wrong one can leave you with regret.
One mother said she now “hates” her son’s nickname so much that she can no longer say it out loud.
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To go to Redditshe said that her boyfriend always stuck with the name because it was common in his family.
She shared: “I hate my baby’s name. I’m not sure if I’m exaggerating, I wonder if this is a hill I want to die on.
“I (28f) gave birth to a healthy baby boy about a month ago, and I absolutely hate his name.”
The woman said her 30-year-old partner Emmett had started suggesting boys’ names and wanted to use his grandfather or great-grandfather’s names, Oliver and Chad.
The woman wasn’t sure, but said she would have preferred to go with Oliver over Chad, even though she didn’t like either of them.
The mother continued: “I HATE the name Chad, we know a few Chads, they are not great people.
“Emmett is very sentimental about everything in his life that has to do with his family. I’m not that sentimental.
“I asked him to compromise and make Chad the middle name because I would rather have Oliver. He said maybe, but with a ‘no’ tone.”
During the pregnancy she admitted that she secretly wished it were a girl so she could choose the name, but it was indeed a boy.
She said: “After 13 hours of labour, our baby boy was born.
“We waited until I was relaxed and in a good position before we signed his birth certificate.”
When the woman saw the piece of paper, her heart sank. She said her partner had already written ‘Chad Beau Smith’ on it.
She added: “I have absolutely no say in that name.”
“Emmett saw me naked and on drugs and I went through the most difficult experience of my life, and I have no say in it.
“I ended up fighting Emmett for about an hour or so and then I gave up. ‘FINE, YOU WIN…’ He grinned as he turned in his birth certificate. I was just too tired to fight anymore, I felt like all I had to focus on was taking care of my baby.”
The new mother said her baby is now one month old and she has been avoiding his name.
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As a child, I wanted nothing more than a personalized keychain with my name on it.
But it wasn’t. The closest I could get were Rosie, Joseph (not so nice for such a little girl) and Joanne.
Josie is short for Josephine, a French first name, and I’ve been in my twenties without ever meeting anyone with the same first name.
When I try to introduce myself to people I get called all sorts of random names like Tracey and Stacey and it can be quite annoying.
Although I’ve met a few Josies in the past year (there are a few around my age), it’s still a much rarer name than most of my friends’ names.
Overall I don’t mind it, at least it’s not crude or spelled weird.
And that means I can get away with ‘doing a Cheryl’ and just calling myself Josie.
I’m getting married this year and some friends are shocked that I’m changing my last name. It’s not considered cool or feminist these days. I explain to them that I’m not that attached to Griffiths because I always just say ‘Hi, I’m Josie’ when I call a friend.
I like being unique and I will definitely try to achieve this when naming my own children.
You have to watch out for the crude names, so after nine years as a lifestyle journalist I will definitely avoid them.
She said: “I can’t bring myself to call him Chad.
“I also haven’t posted anything on SM because I just hate the name.
“I also felt like I was disconnecting from this relationship because after everything Emmett had seen me go through, I felt like I didn’t matter.
“Am I exaggerating?”
Many people were quick to respond to her baby name story and were overwhelmingly on her side.
One said, “Why are you with this person?”
Another added: “You can have it changed. It’s not too late.”
And a third noted: ‘They didn’t let him into the delivery room, they didn’t put his name on the birth certificate.
“You carried the baby, you gave birth to him. Why does he get to choose the baby’s name?”
