I have slept with my sick wife’s sister – her illness is not a license to ignore me

AFTER his wife was diagnosed with a serious illness, a man turned to her sister for unexpected support.

The man explained the circumstances surrounding his extramarital affair.

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In a Reddit afteruser Disada1 said he thought it was “important to have some backstory.”

The 46-year-old insisted his affair with his wife’s 20-year-old sister is ‘not as terrible as it sounds’.

He revealed that he and his 25-year-old wife have been married for three years and share one child together.

According to the poster, he “always had a good relationship” with his wife’s family.

“Her younger sister in particular was always very helpful and kind,” he said.

However, he explained that his wife and her sister had “a big falling out” and have not spoken to each other for the past year.

“Throughout the estrangement, my wife’s sister has kept in touch with me through social media and occasional text messages,” the Redditor wrote.

While he insisted this was normal behavior before the sisters fell out, he admitted the messages became more inappropriate over time.

“About six months ago, her contact with me became more frequent and evolved into more flirtatious exchanges,” he explained.

This happened around the time his wife was “experiencing some serious health issues” that he said were “starting to take a toll on me.”

“Our relationship suffered in the bedroom and I had to pick her up after I got home from a long day of work,” he said.

The man remembered how he secretly turned to his wife’s sister for comfort.

“I started to vent to her sister, who understood my position very well and was a great support to me during this time,” he said.

While his wife was leaving town for a doctor’s appointment, her sister offered to “come over and help out” with childcare.

“I was very grateful for the offer and had her come and help around the house that evening,” he explained.

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

However, the couple did more than do housework together during her visit.

“Once my child was put to sleep, he started getting physical on the couch and eventually in the bedroom,” the poster said.

“This went on for months because my wife’s sister was taking care of my emotional and physical needs that my wife was neglecting.”

He explained how to hide his infidelity from his sick wife.

“We would continue the business as best we could, using the various properties I own and was preparing to rent as meeting points,” he wrote.

According to the man, his wife’s sister helped to ease his guilty conscience.

“I felt guilty, but her sister assured me that I was right because my wife had promised to take care of me in sickness and in health,” he said.

“Just because she was sick doesn’t give her a free pass to neglect my needs.

“I thought she had a point and we kept going.”

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However, the man he now feels “absolutely filled to the brim with guilt.”

He pointed out that if the affair comes to light, his wife will not only divorce him, but it will also cause “a huge rift in her family.”

Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.

“You are a truly terrible person for so many reasons. The best thing you can do is come clean to your wife and divorce her – let her be free from you,” one reader wrote.

“If the age difference wasn’t big enough, you kept typing and it got much worse,” said another commenter.

“You are so selfish to blame your wife when she is sick and needs care. Just let this poor woman go and basically spare all women,” said a third person.