I knew my husband was cheating on me with my sister-in-law… then a phone bill gave it away

A WOMAN has revealed her husband is cheating on her with her sister-in-law.

She claimed she had her suspicions for years but never had proof until a phone bill gave it away.

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Clearly shocked by her husband’s infidelity, the anonymous woman took to social media to speak out about the situation, leaving many open-mouthed.

Posting on Reddit, on the r/survivinginfidelity thread under the username @Sweetie0191, the woman titled her post “Man cheated on his sister-in-law.”

The woman wanted support and wrote: ‘I only found out last week that my husband and sister-in-law are having an affair.

“I’ve suspected it for years, but I’ve never had concrete proof.”

Admitting the backstory of the situation, the woman confessed: “My husband and I have been together for eleven years and my brother and his wife have been together for almost as long.

“My husband admitted that over the years he and my sister-in-law would have conversations without anyone knowing (we all lived together several years ago).

“I’ve seen them flirt, be playful and just be overly friendly over the years.

“I thought I was jealous and finally I told myself to just trust him.

“Everyone in my family can tell that my sister-in-law had ‘a thing’ for my husband because of the way she acted towards him.

“She often confided in him about her marriage to my brother, telling him that they were on the brink of divorce, how mentally abused he was, etc.”

But everything changed in August 2018, after the woman lost her second child when she was 23 weeks pregnant.

The mother of one confessed: “It was devastating; I was devastated. Then I started working in February 2019 and asked my sister-in-law to babysit our son.

“I learned that later when things got physical in their relationship.

He denied it for years and told me I was “crazy,” but my intuition kept nagging at me

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“He tells me it lasted from February 2019 to September 2019 (we put our son in daycare in September 2019). That’s why I think their interactions weren’t as frequent after that.

“To be clear, I’ve asked him more times than I can count if there was anything going on between the two of them, and he said no.

“He denied it for years and told me I was ‘crazy’, but my intuition kept nagging at me.”

The savvy mum confessed it was a phone bill that revealed the secret, adding: “Fast forward to a few weeks ago – I kept thinking about it and decided to check our phone bill.

“I saw them texting at 5am on a Saturday morning in mid-September and again around noon that same day.

“I tried to rationalize why they would text, but I couldn’t. We had no plans to meet them that day or anything.”

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

She explained that she left work, went home and confronted him, during which he admitted that the sister-in-law had “touched him inappropriately.”

Following his confession, the woman then confronted her sister-in-law, saying it was the woman’s husband who had “touched her inappropriately.”

The woman continued: “I went home and asked him and he said ‘yes, it’s all true’.

“Eventually she told my brother next day and he called me. We talked and I told him what I always suspected and that I think they are both guilty.

“He went home and spoke to her and she turned it around and said my husband attacked her and she is the victim.

“My brother now says I have something against his wife and tells me I’m the victim, blame her and that I married some monster.”

One of his excuses was that we weren’t having enough sex, even though we had lost our child six months earlier

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The woman was clearly fed up and wrote: ‘I’m so sick of this and haven’t slept much at all. I really need support and helpful advice.

“He is open to counseling (I have seen a therapist myself for years), but I am just heartbroken and feeling betrayed right now.

“As an aside, when I asked him why he did what he did, one of his excuses was that we weren’t having enough sex, even though we had just lost our child six months before things got physical between the two of them.”

Reddit users respond

Reddit users were stunned by the woman’s unique situation, with many flocking to the comments to share their advice and guidance.

It’s time for all four of you to sit down with all the evidence you have and clear the air

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One person advised: “Ugh. It seems you are losing both your husband and your brother. What a traumatic event.

“Find a therapist to unpack all of this. This is a lot of trauma to deal with and you can’t even lean on those you’re close to.”

Another advised: “It’s time for all four of you to sit down with all the evidence you have and clear the air.

“Your brother will be your family for the rest of your life. Are you willing to risk that relationship for two lying, cheating spouses?

Meanwhile, a third commented: “Nothing is wrong Earth that can fix it…only distance and time…

“These kind of ‘people’ are fucking monsters.”