I love my husband but I can’t stop cheating on my coworker – the sex is addictive

A WOMAN has revealed she cheated on her colleague and finds it ‘addictive’.

The woman explained that she, 31 years old, has been married to her husband, also 31 years old, for ten years.

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But she realized that while they are “compatible,” their sex life has become quite stagnant.

As a result, she slept with a colleague, with whom she now has sex regularly.

The woman was eager to share her confession and took to Reddit to speak candidly about the situation. r/relationship_advice wire.

The woman posted a message under the username @ThrowRA_4333 and captioned it, “I love my husband but I can’t stop cheating on him.”

She stated: “We are perfectly compatible and we love each other. We get along super well, rarely fight and genuinely enjoy each other’s company.

“It’s pretty much perfect…except for the sex. Sex has never been a very important part of our relationship, even in the beginning.

“And honestly… the sex has always been pretty awful.”

The social media user stressed that she and her husband are both “shy” in the bedroom, but their sex life is deteriorating due to their busy lifestyles.

She added: “Neither of us had much experience when we got married, and everything was so good that we didn’t spend a lot of time developing that part of our relationship.

“We’re both quite shy in that area, so communication was never great.

“As we both became busier and busier with our careers, it only got worse.

“Somehow, two years have gone by without us having sex. It really bothers me and we’ve actually had a lot of conversations about it, but my husband says he’s just not interested.

“He just can’t bring himself to do it. He swears he’s in love with me, not gay (I asked) and not interested in anyone else (also asked), but he just has no interest in sex.

“Again – I can’t stress this enough – there are no problems elsewhere and we get along very well.

“I really love him, and he says the same about me. But it’s more like living with a BFF/roommate/sibling than a romantic partner at this point.”

I had no idea sex could be so fun, liberating, empowering and addictive

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But the woman confessed that her inactive sex life with her husband had led to her cheating on her with a colleague.

She continued: “Six months ago I slept with a coworker. We had developed an undeniable physical attraction.

“And…it just kept happening. And it’s AWESOME.

“I had no idea sex could be so fun, liberating, empowering and addictive. It’s incredible.

I’m bracing myself for the inevitable comments and messages telling me I’m a horrible person

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“He is a great partner and even after six months the sex continues to get better.

“Other than physical/sexual attraction, I really have no romantic feelings for him.”

The Reddit user explained that she understands that people will judge her for her confession, but she would like advice on what to do.

She concluded: “I’m bracing myself for the inevitable comments and messages telling me I’m a horrible person. I get it.

“I hope the comments and insights help me realize what I want, what I can do to get it, and how I can get the same sexual pleasure from my husband (or learn to live without him??).”

Four Red Flags That Your Partner Is Cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal for people to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone behavior changes, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, taking their phone everywhere, even into the house, or acts defensively when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign that they are not being faithful to you.”

“You also have to look at how they put their phone down when they’re not using it. If they put the phone face down, then they could be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

When partners cheat, they may start to avoid you. This may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and doesn’t want to do things with you anymore, or doesn’t tell you about his or her day anymore, that’s another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid each other or share less about their day because cheating can be difficult. It’s impossible to remember all your lies and it’s easy to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

According to Aaron, your partner’s libido can change for a number of reasons, so it’s not necessarily a sign of cheating, but it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says, “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they’re cheating, but sometimes they have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You’ll also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and that it makes them feel good, but it can create tension and fear in them that they then have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, didn’t do the dishes, or read your kids a bedtime story. A small issue like this can now feel like a big one, and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

REDDIT USERS RESPOND

Reddit users were stunned by the woman’s confession and took to the comments to share their thoughts, with many suggesting she file for divorce.

Someone said, “Just file for divorce.”

Divorce him and never date anyone else if you can’t be loyal

Reddit user

Another added: ‘If the tables were turned you’d be totally freaking out.’

“Do your man a favor and leave him. You don’t “love” him – you feel comfortable with him.”

A third commented: “STOP cheating on him today. Suggest an open relationship. Go to marriage counseling.

“Maybe he should see a doctor so he can find out if there is a reason for his lack of interest in sex.

“If none of these things work, you need to tell him that sex is a permanent part of your life… If there is no compromise possible, file for divorce.

“He deserves someone who won’t cheat on him all the time.”

While someone else advised, “Divorce him and never date anyone else again if you can’t be loyal.”