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I named my baby after my father’s mistress – my family wants me to change it

A 26-year-old mother has refused to change her daughter’s name despite outrage from her family.

She and her husband decided to name their daughter “Annabelle,” as a tribute to his grandmother who helped raise him.

A woman was shocked to discover that her baby daughter's name was the same as that of her father's mistress (stock image)

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A woman was shocked to discover that her baby daughter’s name was the same as that of her father’s mistress (stock image)Credit: Getty

The woman said she was unaware of the drama that keeping the name secret until delivery would cause.

“My mom and dad were in the room when I gave birth and when it was time to sign the birth certificate, my mom asked for the name and I told her Annabelle,” she said. Reddit.

‘Her face went pale and my dad didn’t look too happy, but he said he loved the name.

“My mother left a few minutes later claiming she wasn’t feeling well. She said she would come over in a few days to help with the baby.

The woman said her mother suddenly became distant, despite normally talking every day.

She invited her sister Emily to her home to discuss her concerns about their mother’s sudden change in behavior.

Emily, who still lives with their parents, revealed she overheard them arguing that her father had an affair with a colleague called Annabelle ten years ago.

While they were still talking, their father arrived at the house and confessed the affair to himself.

He insisted that Annabelle’s name be changed because it put their mother in a “bad head space.”

“My father begged and pleaded for me to change it, saying my mother was packing her bags and heading to her sister’s house,” she said.

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“I told him I won’t change her name and that it means so much to me and my husband.

“He started raising his voice and immediately my sister shouted back and told him to go away.”

The new mother said her father left immediately after being warned not to burden her.

“I’m not changing my baby’s name, but I feel like this is tearing the family apart. What should I do?” she said.

A flood of commenters assured her that she was not being unreasonable in refusing to change her daughter’s name.

However, they warned that this could affect the relationship her mother has with her daughter in the future.

“I understand. You are NTA [not the a**hole],” someone wrote.

“But it will have consequences. Your mother may not be willing to bond — and that’s not a fault! Your father hurt her very badly.

‘Look, the only hole here is your father. But some wounds take time to heal. Can’t agree on a nickname like Anna or Belle?

Are Unique Baby Names Worth the Hassle?

You may think that having a unique name will help you stand out, but is that all you have going for it?

Fabulous’s deputy editor Josie Griffiths reveals the turmoil she faced growing up with her own name.

When I was a kid, all I wanted was one of those personalized keychains with my name on it.

But no joy, the closest I could find was Rosie, Joseph (not great for a little girl) and Joanne.

Josie is short for Josephine, a French name, and I managed to reach my twenties without ever meeting anyone who shared that name.

When I try to introduce myself to people I hear all kinds of random things like Tracey and Stacey, which can be quite annoying.

Although I’ve come into contact with a few Josies in the past year – there seem to be a few around my age – it’s still a much rarer name than most of my friends.

Overall I don’t mind it, at least it’s not rude or weirdly spelled.

And it means I can get away with ‘doing a Cheryl’ and just calling myself Josie.

I’m getting married this year and some friends are shocked that I’m changing my surname as it’s not considered that cool or feminist to do so these days, but I explain to them that I’m not as attached to Griffiths as I used to say’ hello, it’s Josie’ when I called a friend.

I like to be unique and I will definitely try to replicate this when naming my own children.

It’s the crude names you have to watch out for, so after nine years as a lifestyle journalist I’m definitely going to avoid them.

Another commenter suggested that the mother should swap her daughter’s first and middle names.

“Your father is the AH [a**hole]” they said. “But the question you have to ask yourself is whether you want your mother to feel pain every time she hears her granddaughter’s name.

“If the answer is no, I would consider making it her middle name, but that’s entirely up to you! It’s just a bad situation all around.”

A third person described the situation as “difficult” and advised the woman to speak to her mother before making a final decision.

“You have every right to use that name, especially when it comes to family ties. But. You might regret it, they said.

“If your mom and dad aren’t as involved in your child’s life as you wanted, you may look back and wish you had made a different choice.

“But who knows? Maybe your mom will move past her feelings and this won’t even be an ongoing problem and she’ll start being an involved grandma.

The commenter added that any problems in her mother and father’s relationship are not her fault.

“Talk to your mother,” they said. “You don’t have to go into the conversation with the intention of changing the baby’s name, but it would be helpful to hear what she has to say.”

“As for your father, this is 100% his responsibility. If your mother leaves him, it’s because he had an affair, not because of a baby name.

“He needs to take responsibility for his choices and work on repairing his relationships.”

The mother was reassured that she does not have to change her baby girl's name for her father's sake (stock image)

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The mother was reassured that she does not have to change her baby girl’s name for her father’s sake (stock image)Credit: Getty

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