I only have one baby name in mind – people say it would be ‘offensive’ to use that
CHOOSING a name for your child is not an easy decision and should not be taken lightly.
A mother-to-be shared why her in-laws might have a hard time with the name she’s considering.
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In a message on Mothernetone user shared the dilemma she and her husband were in.
The poster stated that she had narrowed down the options to the one that appealed to her most.
However, there was clearly a problem with the name the couple had chosen.
Although they didn’t reveal the name themselves, other Mumsnet users advised her to leave her choice alone.
The expectant mother explained that her intuition told her to choose a certain name, despite an obvious problem.
“When we had our first child, I only had one name. It turned out to be the same name as my husband’s brother’s child,” she explains.
The poster also stated that her partner and his brother were not that close.
She said the two couples did not live near each other and rarely saw each other.
“We never see them, maybe once a year,” she told her fellow Mumsnet users.
She asked for advice on the matter and asked whether it would not be a conflict to give her child the same name as his nephew.
Readers shared their thoughts on the dilemma in the comments.
“No. Unless it’s a family name. I’m sure you can think of something else,” someone wrote.
“I personally wouldn’t do it. Or if you were to do it, talk to your brother-in-law and sister-in-law first and make sure they’re 100% okay with it,” another commenter suggested.
“No, absolutely not. That’s a bit weird. There are plenty of other names. Plus my aunt did it,” said a third Mumsnet user.
“God no. That’s annoying. You could totally pick a different name,” another reader responded.
The Struggle of Choosing a Baby Name
CHLOE Morgan, a senior writer at Fabulous, has revealed her dilemma when choosing a baby name…
I’m 35 weeks pregnant and the hardest part of pregnancy these past few months (apart from the insomnia and countless nighttime wetting!) has been coming up with a baby name.
The dilemmas are endless…
My partner and I had a private ultrasound to find out the gender as early as possible. Part of the reason for this was that we thought it would make choosing a baby name a lot easier, as we would only have to come up with a list of names for one gender instead of two.
How wrong we were…
I was overjoyed to find out I was pregnant with the baby girl I had dreamed of for so long. But because I was one of the last friends to get pregnant, I have had countless conversations with excited friends over the years about their favorite baby names…something I would like to undo without ever having heard.
Every friend comes up with at least 10 possible nicknames and I can’t help but feel like more names are out of the question, even though I know no one would object. It’s just my own problem!
This debate comes up over and over again on social media: can you choose the same name that was a ‘potential’ name for your friend’s baby?
It’s a very divisive topic and opinions are always divided. And I don’t want to be THAT person.
While some argue that there are thousands of other names to choose from, others say that you should choose YOUR favorite. After all, there is no guarantee that person will ever have a child.
Then there’s the matter of finding a name you love… and then doing some research online and reading one negative comment among hundreds of positive ones that you just can’t let go of.
I made that exact mistake when I fell in love with a certain name (I won’t tell you because I don’t want to ruin it for others!)… only to see someone point out that it constantly autocorrects on a phone to something rather rude. So back to the drawing board we went..
Only five more weeks and it looks like our little girl will be called ‘baby girl’ for a while longer!
Others pointed out how much confusion the situation will cause for the rest of the family.
“No, I wouldn’t use it, it would mean their grandparents would have two grandchildren with the same name. Choose a different name,” someone said.
“So your husband’s parents would have two grandchildren with the same name? That would be a little strange for everyone,” wrote another reader.
“I wouldn’t do that. One of the women at my work has two grandsons with the same name and she said she couldn’t understand why her daughter chose the same name as her sister,” one commenter said.
“There are so many names and you only like one? Then buy a baby name book,” someone else suggested.
