I pushed my husband into having a baby – I had bad baby fever and couldn’t wait
A WOMAN has revealed she pushed her husband into having a baby.
The 28-year-old explained that her 30-year-old husband thought she was tracking her ovulation, but after experiencing severe baby fever she couldn’t wait to get pregnant.
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Eager to tell her story, the anonymous mother-to-be took to social media to reveal all, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/relationshipadvice thread, the woman captioned her post “I pushed my husband into having a baby.”
She then explained, “My husband and I have been married for two years and we were talking about having children in a few years.
“I’ve had severe baby fever for the past six months and I ended up pressuring my husband to move up.
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‘We both have a stable job, a house and a relatively good financial position.
“He wasn’t ready yet and wanted our jobs to be more stable, a better house and even better finances.
“After pushing him, we decided I could stop taking birth control and start trying.
“However, a few days later he changed his mind and told me I needed to keep track of when I ovulated to make sure I don’t get pregnant because we’re not ready yet.”
But the woman explained that she wasn’t good at following through and they ended up having sex when she was ovulating.
She added: “Two months later I got pregnant, and I wasn’t very good at following through or telling the story, and we ended up having sex when I was ovulating.
“I understand this is my fault and I basically tricked him into having a baby.
“I just don’t know what to do now.
He is bitter, angry and hates that I did this to him
Reddit poster
“In retrospect, I know what I did was wrong, but that obviously doesn’t change the position I’m in now.
“He is bitter, angry and hates that I did this to him.”
How to get past a big lie
Lying to your partner is never a good move and can cause major trust issues in the future, says relationship expert Kate Taylor.
But did you tell a big lie and were you caught in that lie?
Here are the three things Kate says you should do. . .
- UNDERSTAND A PARTNER’S ANGER: As soon as a lie is exposed, your partner will be furious – and rightly so. Don’t try to downplay your actions because no good will come from rushing to sweep things under the rug because you’re ashamed. Instead, give your partner as much time as necessary to process what you have done.
- EXPLAIN YOUR REASONING: Tell your partner why you felt telling the truth was not an option. It won’t undo the lie and make everything okay, but it will help them understand why you felt like you couldn’t be honest.
- ADDRESS YOUR PROBLEMS: Lying to your partner is a way to control them, and control is a form of emotional abuse. If you had told them the truth, they could have made their own decision. But the problem was that you didn’t like one of their possible choices. If you often lie to get your way, you may suffer from low self-esteem or you grew up in a strict or cold home that did not encourage your freedom. A conversation with a counselor can help you.
Eager for advice, she asked, “Any advice on what I can do to save my marriage and create a good life for our child?”
The woman then explained that as a result of cheating on her husband, he is now “really angry.”
She admitted: “We don’t know how to move past this.”
Reddit users respond
Reddit users were left agape in support of the woman’s claims, with many flocking to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
Not only have many criticized the woman for her actions, but others encouraged the couple to seek help.
Couples counseling immediately
Reddit user
One person said: “I agree with him, you are awful for doing this to him.
“Now you’ve created a situation where he might leave you, or worse, take out his grudge on the baby. You are very selfish and I hope you get therapy.”
Another added: “The only thing I can see to fix this is time and relationship therapy. You guys disagree on one of the most important decisions in life and you betrayed him and he’s back and forth.
A third commented: “Couples go to therapy immediately.”
