I saw photos of my husband at a wedding he attended alone – they left me stunned
A mother has been left in disbelief by photos of her partner’s actions at a wedding he attended without her.
She stayed home with her toddler and their six-week-old baby, as the bride and groom had a no-child policy.
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She said her partner had taken a “short plane trip” to their friend’s wedding during the week.
A woman he spoke to before their relationship was supposed to happen, but she wasn’t concerned because “apparently nothing physical ever happened.”
“When I was pregnant with our first, a text popped up from her asking if he wanted to play an online game,” she said on Mothernet.
Flirting with another woman in front of people who know you, while you sat at home with his babies. Bah
‘I thought it was strange, but he said they played before we met and he hadn’t spoken to her while we were together.
“I was a bit dubious that someone would text like that out of the blue, but accepted it, even though I snooped on her fb/insta and saw that he liked all her photos, which were mainly selfies.”
On the day of the wedding, her partner and the woman seemed cozier than expected.
She found photos of them dancing together among snapshots of the guests that the groom had posted online.
“The photo is just of them and although it looks more like normal dancing than slow dancing, he is beaming at her, her hand very close to his, as if they were letting go of holding hands,” she said.
“If you look at them, anyone would think they were a (very happy) couple.
“AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to not be suspicious if anything else happens and/or to just feel a little sad?
Reactions to the post were torn if the photo was a warning sign that her partner needed to be confronted.
‘I would get hurt. It’s a vulnerable time especially with a six-week-old baby,” one person said.
“You need to talk to your DP. He is not behaving well at all right now.
“When you’re six weeks postpartum, he needs to be protective and supportive, not flying off to weddings so you have to cope while he dances the night away.”
Four warning signs that your partner is cheating
Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.
They start taking their phones everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “
“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
If partners cheat, they may avoid you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.
“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
Another agreed he had behaved inappropriately and urged the woman not to ignore her suspicions.
“At best, he flirted with another woman in front of people who know you, while you sat at home with his babies. Ugh, they said.
“Did he offer to stay home? He should have done that. They are also his children.
“Never reject your own intuition.
“Don’t let him downplay and trivialize this. Have a frank discussion and pay close attention to his answers.
‘Don’t let him play the DARVO card. At the very least, he embarrassed you and made you feel bad.”
However, a third argued that they read “too much” into the photo.
“He probably enjoyed dancing with her – people dance at weddings and dancing is fun,” they said.
“That’s what the photo captured. That’s it. This woman is famous.
“While you both thought it was a good idea for him to represent you both at the wedding, that probably wasn’t the case. He is needed at home.”
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