I sleep with my boss – after fucking in his office, things are messy
A WOMAN has revealed she had an affair with her boss and after banging in his office, things have become incredibly messy.
The woman explained that she feels like a schoolgirl with her boss and is ‘ashamed’ that things went wrong next level while she was in a relationship.
The anonymous woman shared her confession on social media, leaving many open-mouthed.
Writing on the r/TrueOffMyChest thread under the username @Feeling-Sea-4263, the woman titled her post “I’m sleeping with my married boss and feeling like a total cliché.”
The 35-year-old then revealed: “I did something that I know I should be ashamed of. I’m ashamed on some level.
“I did one of the most clichéd things possible. I’m having an affair with my boss.
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“I’ve never done anything like this before. As far as I know, I have never cheated on a partner and have never been a man’s affair partner.”
She explained that her boss is four years older and their affair has been going on for nine months.
She added: “I was immediately attracted to him when I met him on my first day at the company. I had never felt such a level of attraction at first sight with anyone I had ever met.
“I was in a long-term relationship at the time and he was already married. I kept my attraction to him completely to myself, but I was a grown woman in my thirties with what felt like the most intense schoolgirl crush of all time.
“When I started, my day job meant I didn’t have regular daily contact with him.
“I was quickly promoted twice, and with each promotion I worked more closely with him, sat in more meetings and on committees with him, and corresponded with him on work issues. I’m just a department manager now, not a super high ranking.”
The woman admitted that they started flirting when they met and she quickly realized that they had a lot in common.
She continued: “When we met, there was definitely some flirting, but it just seemed like the way he was. He was just a friendly, charming guy.
“We had things in common, interests and hobbies, so we always had things to talk about.
‘Then I started finding out more about his wife from other people at work. He never spoke badly about his wife, but I learned through others that they argued all the time, that she probably had some mental disorders, and that she had even caused major scenes at work before I started there. I took all that with a grain of salt. Later I heard that it was really true.”
Three weeks ago I found out that I am pregnant
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When she heard about her boss’s wife, her own relationship ended, and then things started to get serious at work.
She revealed: “It was around Christmas that it started. Our offices are closed for a week, but most people are taking extra PTO on either side to extend it.
“On the last day before break, there were maybe only four of us on the entire campus. He works on the floor above me. He came down and suggested we order food for delivery.
“I spent the rest of the afternoon in his office talking and laughing, and then we kissed and it ended in sex.”
I’m in love with him. He’s the perfect man for me. I just think it’s too messy. I can’t imagine everyone finding out about that
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And after entering the officethe woman says: “Three weeks ago I found out that I am pregnant. I told him about two weeks ago.
‘I’m in love with him. He’s the perfect man for me. I just think it’s too messy. I can’t imagine everyone finding out about that.
“Everyone thinks he’s sick, a great guy and I really don’t want to help ruin his reputation.”
Unsure of what to do in this situation, the woman admitted, “He wants to keep the baby. He wants children, but his wife doesn’t want any.
‘He feels guilty thinking about leaving his wife because she is unstable, but he says he will leave her for this.
“I feel like he would actually only leave her for the baby because he wants to, not because he loves me so much.”
Four warning signs that your partner is cheating
Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.
They start taking their phones everywhere
In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.
Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “
“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
If partners cheat, they may start avoiding you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves that they will have to justify.
“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users were stunned by the woman’s claims and quickly flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
Many were of the same opinion: that the woman should end the affair.
One person said: “If he cheats on you, he will cheat on you. It has already been shown that he has no problem cheating on his mentally ill wife instead of leaving her.”
If he wanted a relationship with you, he should have filed for divorce first
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Another added: “If this ends, and it will end, you will lose your job. He cheats on a woman who needs him. His character is on full display, just like yours. Sounds harsh? It is.”
A third commented: “Don’t do it. He says he will leave, but he can say anything and not mean it. Moreover, he cheated on his wife. What’s to stop him from cheating on you if you ever get together?
‘You may think you’re special, but I wouldn’t bet everything on that if I were you. A relationship must be built on a solid foundation of trust.
“He broke that trust, proved to you that he is capable of destroying that trust in a marriage. So I would drop it all if I were you.”
Meanwhile, someone else wrote: ‘If he was willing to cheat on his wife with you, he’s not a good guy. If he wanted a relationship with you, he should have filed for divorce first.”