I slept with my husband’s brother. I love my husband, but he can’t give me what I want

A WOMAN has revealed she has been married for 12 years and loves her husband but has been sleeping with her brother-in-law.

She confessed that her husband, 50, cannot give her what she wants: sex. That’s why she slept with his brother while they were on a family vacation.

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The woman explained that she does not want to make excuses for her behavior, but now does not know what to do.

The anonymous woman opened up about the situation on social media and took to Reddit to share her story, leaving many open-mouthed.

Post to the r/Marriage thread, the 39-year-old woman captioned her post “I slept with my brother-in-law and now I want to disappear,” as she confessed, “I don’t know what to do now.” This will break my husband’s and my sister-in-law’s (my husband’s sister) hearts.

“Last Saturday was my brother-in-law’s 40th birthday. We celebrated it with a holiday on Mykonos. My mother and father-in-lawlawhusband, his sister, her husband and me.”

Providing some context about her marriage, the woman said: “I have been married to my husband for twelve years. 10 of them are without sex.

“What the relationship lacked in sex, it made up for in affection and intimacy. We love each other.

“I have never been more loved in my life and I have had nothing but negative experiences with sex, so I chose to stay married to my husband.

“Besides the panic I sometimes get with the thought that I may never have sex again, my life is happy. My marriage is happy.

“We have many friends and wonderful families who love us. We have money and we have great careers.

“The thought of living without my husband for a chance at sex is unbearable for me.

“My husband is 50. He is not going to have sex with me now. He said he loves me and no one will love me like him.

“He said if I left I might have sex but I would never be loved. I’m 39. No one will be interested in starting a life with a 39 year old.

We slept together twice in one night in Mykonos. Everyone went to bed except us and we started talking and drinking

Reddit user

“My brother-in-law has been married to my sister-in-law for twenty years. They have two children together and just bought a house.

“They are not financially stable enough to divorce and it will ruin my sister-in-law’s heart future.”

Four warning signs that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking their phones everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing his password, taking his phone everywhere, even around the house, or if he gets defensive when you ask to use his phone, this could be a sign that he’s not being faithful. “

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when not in use. If they look at the phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

If partners cheat, they may avoid you. This could be because they feel guilty or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner suddenly starts avoiding you and stops wanting to do things with you or stops talking about their day, this is another warning sign.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a warning sign.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but occasionally they may also have more sex at home. This is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will introduce new things into your sex life that were not there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will feel good. This can cause tension and anxiety within themselves, which they will have to justify.

“To release the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and out of nowhere become critical of you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog that day, do the dishes, or do a book read. Book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now feel like a big problem and if you experience this, your partner may be cheating,” Aaron warns.

But while in Greece, things quickly took an unexpected turn, as the woman continued: “We slept together twice in one night in Mykonos. Everyone went to bed except us and we started talking and drinking.

“I told him everything and he was shocked that I haven’t had sex in so long. I don’t know, but my desire just took over me and when he touched me, I let him.”

I love my husband. How can I tell him why I did it? Especially because he knows I long for this

Reddit user

Unsure what to do, the woman wrote, “I’m not trying to make excuses. I hate myself for what I did, but I don’t know what to do now.

“I love my husband. How can I tell him why I did it? Especially because he knows I long for this. The one thing he can’t give me.

“And my sister-in-law and her children? I can’t mess them up.

“I need help, please don’t judge me too harshly because I wish I was never born.

“I’m thinking of two options: live with the guilt. Ask for divorce, but never tell my husband why. Spare him and his family the pain. Or at least say I slept with a stranger.”

Reddit users respond

Reddit users flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation, but there was a clear divide.

While many criticized the woman for her infidelity, others were more concerned about the actions of the woman’s husband.

You are very wrong with what you did

Reddit user

One person said: ‘Live with your guilt. Never tell anyone. It would be selfish of you to try to alleviate your own guilt by ruining everyone’s lives, which you will certainly do.”

Another added: “You are very wrong for what you did and it is way above the pay level you should be coming to Reddit for.”

A third commented: “You shouldn’t have cheated. You should have left instead.”

Your husband abuses you. Intimacy is important in a marriage. Sex is important

Reddit user

Meanwhile, someone else wrote: “Your husband told you no one will love you if you leave him?! That’s manipulative and disgusting.

“He has been telling you for years that you are a person unworthy of love, apart from his love and his love alone. That’s just awful of him.

“He is afraid of being alone and manipulates you to keep you in this sexless and unfulfilling marriage.”

While a second sounded: “Your husband is abusing you. Intimacy is important in a marriage. Sex is important.”