I suck in thousands of ‘submissive’ men who worship me but never give in to sex

POWERHOUSE activist, feminist and dominatrix Chidera Eggerue joined the ‘We Need To Talk’ podcast to reveal all the juiciest details about making money as ‘Goddess Gina’.

She joined host Paul C. Brunson to explain how she became so successful in the sex work industry despite not servicing her clients.

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Discussing the subject candidly, Paul admitted: “I’ve always, ignorantly, associated being a dominatrix with sex or BDSM, but you haven’t had sex in four years.

“So can you explain, what is BDSM?”

Chidera responded: “BDSM is all about exploring the power dynamics between yourself and consenting partners.

“Consent is the overarching key word in all of this, everything is completely consensual and it’s about kinks being explored in a way that feels safe.”

Chidera uses the persona ‘Goddess Gina’ for her sex work (which she also believes is just her real self).

But where does Goddess Gina meet submissive men?

“There are such things as ‘play parties’, which are parties organized for people from the kink community.

“Even in non-BDSM environments there are subtle signs (you can tell that a man is submissive).

“For example, if I’m on the train and I have one leg crossed over the other and I’m twirling my shoe or it’s sandal season so your toes are showing, and I notice that the man sitting in front of me keeps looking at my feet I like to test whether he is submissive.

“Maybe I’ll keep eye contact with him for a moment and then look back down at my feet to see if he turns red.

“Men can also identify a dominant woman without her saying anything.

“Just because of her behavior.”

Chidera further explained that sex doesn’t have to be a factor: “What’s interesting is that we (dominatrixes) don’t have sex with the men.

‘If we do that at all, we are doing something called chastity.

“There is such a thing as a chastity device, it’s a little device that the man can wear on his penis and it’s locked so the woman holds the key and his penis is literally locked.”

“And that is for a period agreed upon by him and the mistress.”

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So if Goddess Gina doesn’t have sex with her clients, what are they paying for?

Dungeon sessions

“This could take place in an environment like a dungeon, or it could even be a hotel room.

“It’s where all the equipment and tools are so you can perform the kinks, like flogging or foot worship.

“You can also make them kneel and face the wall. There are men who will pay you to just ignore them.”

Edges

“When you give someone a head start, it’s normally when the person is close to orgasm and you stop so the sex can last longer.

“But in BDSM, especially in the context of a dominatrix and her submissive husband, it’s insulting him while he’s locked in chastity and you’re making him do things that serve you.

“It can range from letting him do household chores, being obedient and rewarding him with a pat on the back and saying ‘good boy’.

“Making him kiss your feet, instructing him to orally pleasure you, and again – all while he’s locked up.

“So he’s in a place psychologically where he can serve you and he’s also very excited.”

Permission to introduce herself to her online

“If they come across me on Twitter they will have to pay a £100 tribute as an introduction fee.

“That money is only to give them permission to introduce themselves to me, and the tribute does not gain them anything.

“They have no right to my time, it’s just a gesture from them to honor the opportunity to say hello to me and say, ‘Hi Goddess, this is who I am, I think you’re beautiful and I want you serve’.

Financial dominance

‘I attract a lot of men who want to be dominated financially.

“Here, men enjoy being told what to do with their money by women they consider powerful.”

You can find Chidera’s Instagram here.

What your sexual fantasies say about you

By means of Emma Kenny, a TV presenter and psychologist

Raw roleplay: If your partner likes to dress up for fun, it shows creativity and a desire to keep things exciting. However, it may indicate that he is struggling with responsibility.

Fantasies with multiple partners: The desire for variety does not always mean that he wants to cheat. However, it can indicate deeper feelings of unfulfillment.

Power and control: A little bit of dominance is normal, but if it’s always about control, it can hide insecurities.

Adventure: Men looking for excitement can push boundaries, so make sure your comfort zone is respected.

Passion: When romantic, he is emotionally attuned, although he occasionally avoids difficult conversations.

Flexibility: Openness to new experiences is great, but the constant search for new things can mean avoiding emotional connections.

Red flag: If control is his ultimate fantasy, it could indicate a deeper struggle with power dynamics.