I want my married ex to get me pregnant – I want our baby to have a brother or sister
A SINGLE mother has received backlash online after revealing the proposal she has for her ex.
The woman revealed that she planned to ask her ‘happily married baby daddy’ to donate sperm so she can have a second child.
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In one after on Mumsnet, the unnamed user explained the reason behind her unusual request.
“I am a single mother of an amazing toddler who brings so much joy to my life,” she wrote.
“I absolutely love being a mother and I’m desperate for another one, but I’m not interested in a relationship.”
The poster pointed out that it’s “damn hard” to meet someone when she usually has custody of her child.
However, she revealed that she was open to using a less traditional method to have her next baby.
“I’m considering booking into a clinic and using a sperm donor to get another one,” the mother-of-one explained.
She explained why she hesitated to choose an anonymous donor.
“It breaks my heart to think that one of my children will have a father they want to see, while the other will have no father at all,” she said.
The woman came up with a solution to this problem, allowing her children to become full brothers and sisters.
“It would be ideal if I could ask my ex to donate and I think there’s a good chance he’ll agree,” she wrote.
She described her ex-partner’s relationship status as ‘happily married’ and wondered whether it would be inappropriate to ask him to donate his sperm.
“I don’t want to offend his current partner,” the Mumsnet user explained.
“I have absolutely no romantic or sexual feelings for him right now, but she might get the wrong idea, or she might be embarrassed about me walking around pregnant with his baby if he agrees.”
Other Mumsnet users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“Yes, it’s absolutely bullshit. I can’t even believe you would even consider asking him,” one reader wrote.
RULES FOR SPERM AND PROPERTY DONATION
DONATED sperm and eggs are used in IVF for people who cannot have their own biological children due to fertility problems.
The Human Fertilization and Embryology Authority estimates that one in 170 children born today is conceived with the help of a donor.
In Britain it is illegal for donors to be paid, to prevent people who do this for the wrong reasons or prospective parents from being exploited.
Men aged 18 to 46 can donate sperm
- They must undergo medical checks to ensure they do not have any blood-borne diseases or genetic defects that could be passed on to a baby.
- You cannot donate anonymously. If a child is born with your sperm, at age 18 he or she has the right to know who you are, but you have no legal responsibility to care for him or her.
Women aged 18 to 35 can donate their eggs
- They must undergo medical screening for diseases and genetic problems, and some clinics do not allow obese or otherwise unhealthy women to donate.
- You can donate eggs to someone you know, but there are strict rules against mixing sperm and eggs within families.
- Egg donation is the same as the early stages of IVF treatment, and the donor must take hormonal medications to stimulate the production and maturation of the eggs before removing them with a needle.
- You cannot donate anonymously. If a child is born with your egg, he or she has the right to know who you are at age 18, but you are not legally obliged to care for him or her.
“He’s married. It just wouldn’t be right to do this, it’s going to be so messy,” said another commenter.
“Why do you have your baby almost 100% of the time? This suggests he isn’t as interested in his child’s life as he should be so it would be a no from me,” a third person commented.
“I would be quite offended if I were his wife,” said another reader.
“Bats**t, no man or his partner on earth would agree to this,” said one Mumsnet user.
“His wife will climb the wall if you ask him this. And he will 100% say no,” another commenter wrote.
