I’m a ‘diagnosed psychopath’ and impossible to date – I’ve never been in love
A WOMAN has revealed what it’s really like dating as a ‘diagnosed psychopath’, from never falling in love to why she would never date a man who has less money than her.
Although the term is widely used, people with so-called ‘psychopathic’ personality traits are most often diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD).
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In Britain, patients cannot be diagnosed as psychopaths and it is no longer a term recognized by mental health law.
Those who exhibit certain characteristics, including a lack of empathy, impulsiveness, and superficial charm, may be diagnosed with other mental health conditions, including ASPD.
Vic, 22, who was diagnosed with ASPD at the age of 19 but calls herself a psychopath, often shares videos online explaining what dating is really like for her.
Recently, the content creator, who describes herself as a “diagnosed psychopath,” took to TikTok (@victhepath) to reveal how dating works for her.
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In the now-viral video, she confessed that she prefers short-term flings and hook-up culture to long-term relationships and that she has never really loved any of her exes.
Speaking to her 260,000 followers, she claimed she enjoyed ‘the company’ of her previous partners but didn’t want to pursue anything more serious because she was ‘bored’.
In fact, she said the relationships were more like a “pretty heavy obsession,” at least on her part.
“I don’t date so much as I dabble in hookup culture,” she explained in the viral video.
“I like a good friends-with-benefits situation, but when it comes to something more serious, I don’t have the bandwidth for that.”
Vic confessed that her attitude to dating is quite ‘shallow’ and that her ‘extremely high standards’ keep her from dating more men.
So, what are the qualities she looks for in a man?
Well, any potential beau has to be incredibly attractive, Vic explained, as she never likes to be the prettiest in a relationship.
Money is also a must, and she only looks for men who can afford dates and can “take care of her financially.”
Vic’s list of requirements for the men she dates also includes a good personality who will plan interesting things for them.
“I can’t go out on a date with someone I find boring, even if it’s for free food,” she said.
If men ever disrespect Vic, they will definitely be kicked to the curb as she revealed that she will happily cut them off in a heartbeat if she ever feels disrespected.
Despite all this, Vic said she still has a lot to offer potential flames, especially because of her “interesting” personality that will keep them on their toes.
She said, “You will never be bored with me. I like to have interesting conversations. I’m also very cold. As long as you respect me, we won’t have any problems.”
As long as boys aren’t “needy,” they have a chance to get to know her, she explained.
What is it like dating someone with a personality disorder?
Dr. Sham Singh, a psychiatrist at WINIT Clinic, said Metro.nl that most people with ASPD lead a ‘fairly normal life’.
“The one-dimensional way in which ASPD is stigmatized, namely by being called a ‘psychopath’, is unfair to people with this personality disorder,” he added.
And for anyone dating someone with ASPD, he suggested taking into account the condition and how self-conscious they are.
Mental health help
If you, or someone you know, needs help dealing with mental health issues, the following organizations offer support.
The following people can be contacted free of charge and confidentially:
Mind, www.mind.orgprovide information about types of mental health problems and where to get help for them. Email info@mind.org.uk or call the info line on 0300 123 3393 (UK landlines are charged at local rates, and mobile phone charges may vary).
Young minds run a free, confidential parent helpline on 0808 802 5544 for parents or carers concerned about how a child or young person is feeling or behaving. The website also has a chat function.
Rethink Mental Illness, www.rethink.orgprovides advice and information service, offering practical advice on a wide range of topics including the Mental Health Act, social care, social services and carers’ rights. Use the website or call 0300 5000 927 (calls will be charged at your local rate).
heads together, www.headstogether.org.ukis a mental health initiative led by the Royal Foundation of The Prince and Princess of Wales.
15 Relationship Red Flags to Look Out for
Red flags are warning signs that indicate unhealthy or manipulative behavior. When you encounter red flags in relationships, it’s a good time to pause and think about the dynamics you really share with that person.
- Excessive controlling behavior
- Lack of trust
- Having low self-esteem
- Physical, emotional or mental abuse
- Substance abuse
- Narcissism
- Anger management problems
- Codependency
- Inability to resolve conflicts
- Constant jealousy
- Gas lighting
- Lack of emotional intelligence
- A negative impact on your relationship with family and friends
- Inability to communicate openly
- Lack of social connection or friends
For more advice and support, Stories is available: “Whether it’s your relationship with a partner, a child, a family member or anyone else – we help everyone build better relationships.”
