I’m a mom and I’m tired of parents not disciplining their children and raising “monsters.”
A WOMAN sparked outrage online after sharing her recent experiences with misbehaving toddlers.
People criticized the hands-off approach that parents seem to be taking these days.
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In one after on Mumsnet, the unnamed user explained that she has noticed how “people just let their toddlers run wild.”
The woman revealed that she has three children who are currently of primary and secondary school age.
Although the mother said she still remembered the difficulty of the toddler stage, she said she could not embrace some parents’ approach.
She explained that she took her eight-year-old daughter to a farm park and noticed the poor parenting.
“My daughter sat in a big sandbox, very focused on building something, and toddlers were allowed to come over several times to knock it over,” she said.
The woman added that there was “no parental intervention whatsoever.”
She cited other examples from the same day, including toddlers holding up a busy slide with a “big line of kids.”
Her daughter also couldn’t enjoy the trampoline and hoop games she had patiently waited for after more toddlers intervened.
The mother explained that on every occasion the parents seemed oblivious to the frustration their children were causing.
She also recalled an “older baby crawling around the middle of the floor in a cafe” at the farm park.
The woman pointed out that this caused problems for the ‘waiter who was carrying two huge plates of food [who] almost tripped over it.”
“It’s obviously not the toddlers’ fault, but when my kids were their age I had to constantly talk to them about turn taking,” the poster wrote.
“Of course it’s hard work, but that’s how they learn.”
The mother of three said she “just got fed up with older children being expected to tolerate this behavior and parents finding it funny and cute.”
She shared her frustration that “parents [are] doing nothing to stop it and looking at their toddlers with gooey eyes.”
Different parenting techniques
Here are some commonly recognized methods:
Authoritative parenting
This technique will often promote independence, self-discipline and high self-esteem in children.
It is often considered the most effective. With this technique, parents set clear expectations, enforce rules, and show warmth and support at the same time.
Authoritarian parenting
This is the opposite of authoritative parenting, because the parent has high demands but little responsiveness.
What matters is that the child is obedient and that punitive measures are often taken. While this can lead to disciplined behavior, it can also lead to lower self-esteem and lower self-esteem and social skills in children.
Permissive parenting
Permissive parents tend to be permissive and permissive, often taking on a role more like that of a friend than that of an authority figure. They are very responsive, but make few demands, giving children a lot of freedom. This method can promote creativity and a free-spirited nature, but it can also result in poor self-regulation and problems with authority.
Uninvolved parenting
Uninvolved or neglectful parenting is characterized by low responsiveness and low demands. Parents in this category provide minimal guidance, care or attention. This often leaves children feeling neglected, which can have significant negative consequences for their emotional and social development.
Helicopter parenting
Helicopter parents are extremely involved and overprotective, often micro-managing their children’s lives. Although their goal is to protect and support, this approach can hinder a child’s ability to develop independence and problem-solving skills.
Free-range parenting
Free-range parenting encourages children to explore and learn from their environment with minimal parental intervention. This method promotes independence and resilience, but requires a safe and supportive environment to be successful.
Parenting attachment
According to Marriage.comAttachment parenting focuses on physical closeness and emotional bonding, often through practices such as co-sleeping and babywearing. This approach focuses on creating secure attachments and emotional well-being, but requires a lot of time and emotional involvement from parents.
Each of these parenting techniques has its own strengths and weaknesses. The key is finding a balanced approach that aligns with the family’s values and meets the child’s needs for a healthy, happy upbringing.
Mumsnet users shared their thoughts on the modern approach to parenting.
“Yes. Then the shrug with a ‘What can I do, she’s sassy LOL’. Raising monsters,” one parent wrote.
“Too many kids do exactly what they want, when they want,” another person agreed.
“In the old days, children would have been unsupervised in playgrounds and if a three-year-old was started at the bottom of a slide, they quickly learned that they were not allowed to be at the bottom of the slide,” said a third reader.
Yet not everyone agreed with the criticism of toddler parents today.
“You are a classic example of forgetting and I mean ‘really’ forgetting what the toddler stage is really like,” one Mumsnet user commented.
“I agree that there is shocking parenting at every stage, always has been and always will be,” someone else wrote.
“But you sound a little smug, so be careful.”
“It amazes me that people are still so ignorant about child development, after all the research and information that is readily available,” said one reader.
“People who feel offended by the ‘behavior’ of a small child really need to take a good look at themselves.”
