I’m a Narcissistic Sociopath – Here’s How to Protect Yourself from People Like Me
A self-confessed narcissistic sociopath has revealed how people can secretly protect themselves from her manipulation tactics.
The 26-year-old woman, who goes only by the name Delta, claims she has been diagnosed by a professional as a malignant narcissist, a type of person who takes pleasure in controlling others.
She further explained that this type of disorder is the most dangerous and decided to share safety tips in the hopes of helping the public.
Delta explained that if you want to avoid being humiliated and abused by a malignant narcissist, you should avoid contact if possible or take steps to eliminate the narcissist’s hold on your emotions.
Delta told her viewers on TikTok video that a malignant narcissist is ‘actually much more dangerous’ than the typical narcissist.
This is because they suffer from a combination of narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, paranoia and sadism – the pleasure they get from hurting others.
She asked viewers to “recognise that they are dealing with a potentially very dangerous person,” adding: “We will cross lines that normal people would not cross.”
Malignant narcissists are more violent, aggressive, paranoid and sadistic than you would expect from a normal narcissist.
“If you generally think someone has autism spectrum disorder or is sadistic, then you need to know and understand what type of person you are dealing with,” Delta warned.
Delta said in a separate video that her previous experiences may have contributed to her diagnosis.
She claimed that she had been a victim of sex trafficking since she was 10 years old and that she was regularly raped.
Delta added that she also suffers from adulthood traumas, including poverty, institutionalization and severe anxiety. She said her experiences have only exacerbated her existing condition, which she said she has had since childhood.
1. Gray Rock the Narcissist
Unlike the typical narcissist, who exaggerates his or her own importance, malignant narcissists feed on any form of attention they can get, regardless of whether it is positive or negative.
To combat this behavior, Delta advised people to “gray rock” the narcissist by removing all emotional responses to his actions.
‘You make yourself as boring as possible, as uninteresting as possible, do not react emotionally, give very short yes or no answers. In this way you prevent the malignant narcissist from feeding on your energy,’ says Delta.
Someone with this disorder derives pleasure from the fact that others behave differently than they do. For example, they do this by sending insults or shouting at the malignant narcissist.
Delta gave the example: ‘I love it when people dehumanize me. I love it when people snap back.’
If you rock a malignant narcissist to death, he or she will lose interest in you because you are boring and do not meet that person’s need to provoke an emotional response, she explains.
“You’re not giving me any kind of narcissistic supply, you’re not stimulating me,” Delta said. “So what the hell would I want to do with you?”
While she admits she recognizes when people rock her in a gray way, Delta says most malignant narcissists probably don’t recognize this tactic.
A malignant narcissist will attempt to exert power and control over you, but there are steps you can take, such as giving the illusion of control, rocking the narcissist to the ground, and cutting off contact.
2. Give the malignant narcissist the illusion of power and control
If no contact is for you, Delta advises viewers to manipulate the malignant narcissist by flipping the script and giving him the illusion that he has power and control over you.
The main goal of malignant narcissists is to gain “power and control” over others, but Delta says you can protect yourself from their abuse by taking away that power and control.
“Giving someone the illusion of control is a good idea against power-hungry people who want to be in control, like narcissists,” Delta said.
‘If someone gives me the illusion that I have power, even though he is the puppet master pulling the strings behind the scenes, I am much less likely to realize that I am being manipulated, because he is feeding my delusions of grandeur.
“They stroke my ego by putting me in a position of power.”
This can help with your self-preservation, but it is not an ideal option. If the malignant narcissist realizes that you are manipulating him or her, it can have disastrous consequences, she continued.
This can lead to what’s known as emotional dysregulation – when a malignant narcissist loses control over others, causing him or her to experience intense mood swings, including anger and frustration, according to Psychology Today.
Delta warned that giving the illusion of control “is not meant to be a long-term solution and you should not have any contact in the long term if they are abusing you.”
3. Go No Contact
According to Delta, the very first step you should take when dealing with a malignant narcissist is to completely cut off contact with that person.
This may be even more important if the person is not trying to overcome his/her disorder or if he/she is not self-aware.
It is especially important to cut all ties if someone approaches you in an insulting or sadistic way, such as by belittling, tormenting, or humiliating you.
Malignant narcissists feel and enjoy the pain of others and get great pleasure from putting others down, which is why it is important to go no contact, Delta says.