I’m a stay-at-home mom, but motherhood is a drag – I think about divorce every day
Parenting isn’t for everyone and one mother said she’s tired of the daily routine.
The mother admitted that she even considered getting a divorce and calling it quits.
She opened up about her parenting issues in a after.
“I just don’t enjoy motherhood anymore,” she said.
The housewife called the responsibility a “boredom.”
“Nothing is fun and whenever I/we try to do something fun, it gets ruined by a tantrum from one of the kids,” she explains.
“[My] husband was annoyed that we were going to the park; it was hot so I was sweating through my jeans and took [the] baby home after 20 minutes while he stayed with our toddler.
“I don’t even like the park. After years of going there daily with our oldest son, I’ve come to hate it, so we stay home most of the time.”
Even though she had a playroom and a garden, the mother felt guilty about not taking her children outside.
“At least he’s not glued to a screen. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t be a mother at all,” she said.
She mourned the early stages of her relationship and admitted that they may have rushed things.
“Our marriage was very quick, we got pregnant quickly and got married a year later, so I don’t feel like we really had time to enjoy being together and dive into parenthood together,” she says.
“Now I just feel like roommates. We’re still quite young, so I think about divorce almost every day, but he doesn’t want to.”
The mother believed that motherhood would be easier if she were alone.
“I can’t help but think how much easier and more peaceful life would be as a single mother. One less person to worry about and at least I would have some time to myself to relax,” she said.
“I see beautiful, loving marriages and relationships in friends and wonder if we will ever return to that.
Our marriage was very quick, we got pregnant quickly and got married a year later, so I don’t feel like we really had time to enjoy being together and dive into parenthood together.
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“As the years go by, I become more and more doubtful and resentful. For no apparent reason, I just hate everything he does or says.
“I don’t even think it’s a rut, because we’ve been in a haze of kids and marriage for six years, and we still have the same feelings and fights, without making any progress.
“How would I even be able to handle having to stare all over again? Like I don’t even feel like I can tell him to leave and break up because I haven’t had an income in years but I clearly can’t afford to get my own place.”
Mothers expressed their condolences and sympathy advice on the next steps she could take.
“I think you would benefit from therapy, honestly. A lot of these feelings are normal, but some of them break my heart; it sounds like you need someone to talk to on a regular basis,” one person said.
“Perhaps you could also benefit from couples and learn how to communicate with each other again.”
“It seems more like a relationship issue than a motherhood issue, especially when you say you’d rather be a single mom,” another agreed.
“It sounds like you’re overworked and tired, Mom. You need some ‘me time’ ASAP! And I agree with the other advice; it would be helpful to dig deeper into your relationship with your partner.
“Some couples are open to therapy, others are not. But whatever the case is for you and your partner, I think there are some long overdue conversations that need to be had.”