I’m an introvert and hate going to work, but I don’t want to disappoint my boyfriend

APPRENTICE star and West Ham United vice-chairman Karren Brady answers all your career questions and also tries out our money-saving tips.

Here she gives advice to a reader who is very introverted and struggling with her job as a receptionist.

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Q) I recently returned to work after a seven year hiatus while raising my children. A family friend offered me a job as a receptionist at her small business.

The problem is that I am very introverted and find it stressful to talk to strangers, so being a receptionist is my worst nightmare!

I don’t want to be ungrateful and I really appreciate having a job that ties in with picking up and dropping off kids from school, but I dread going to work every day and still feel anxious after I leave. the office.

What should I do?

Maura, via email

A) It sounds like you’re in a tough situation, where you have to balance gratitude for your job against the stress it causes.

If you feel mentally strong enough to face your fears and make this job happen, I encourage you to have an honest conversation with your friend.

Because you have a personal relationship with each other, she will likely be understanding and want to help you.

Use coping strategies, such as mindfulness or deep breathing, before, during, and after work.

Take a few minutes each day to visualize positive interactions to boost your self-confidence.

Gradually expose yourself to situations that would make you anxious. Start with short, stress-free interactions, such as chatting with a cashier at the grocery store. Then slowly increase the complexity and duration.

Joining a support group for people with social anxiety can help you feel less alone and provide you with tips on how to cope.

If the job continues to be a significant source of stress over time, it may be time to look for a position that better suits your personality.

Be honest and grateful to your girlfriend so that she understands your reasons.

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