I’m in love with my cousin. Our family is furious, but we still plan to get married
A WOMAN who fell in love with her cousin has revealed they are still planning to get married despite their family being furious about their relationship.
Taking to social media, the 23-year-old revealed that the pair were always close, but after college they fell romantically in love and started a relationship.
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The couple, who are cousins on their father’s side, were now left wondering how to navigate their relationship as the world around them urged them to part ways.
Her cousin, now 26, and she were childhood friends and had sleepovers all the time when they were younger. Even some family members noticed their undeniable chemistry.
She said: “The younger cousins were always teasing and joking and asking us if we were boyfriend and girlfriend and saying, ‘You’re getting married.’ Kids are crazy, but I can’t say their jokes were far from the truth, granted.
“We’ve both grown up a lot and lived our lives, graduated from good colleges and thrived in our careers,” she continued.
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“When the pandemic hit, I moved home and he and I reconnected, as we always do. But this time it was different… we fell in love. Not overnight, but it happened and we have been dating seriously for about a year now and imagining ourselves together.”
The pair have done a lot of research to see how things should be handled and say they are both prepared for their future, but their family is not.
She revealed that the couple’s family found out after a family meeting was called and their romance came to light.
“They don’t blame me for loving him and they respect our feelings, but they don’t and cannot support us,” she added.
“I have always been very involved with our families and extended family and we don’t want them to suffer, we want them to feel happy for us and continue to live their lives.
“Why does this have to be the most important thing in the lives of our extended families, they have their own families and their own problems to deal with.”
She said she realized they could still legally marry and wasn’t too concerned about genetic issues if they had children, but she struggled to manage her relationship with her family while keeping her relationship intact.
The post went viral on Reddit Relationship advice forum and people were quick to share their thoughts.
One person wrote: “Expect your family to never talk about this. Or anyone for that matter.”
Another commented: “Wouldn’t recommend marriage. Family incest is never a good idea.”
Can you marry your cousin?
While it’s taboo to marry your cousin, The Sun’s suffering aunt explains why it’s more complicated than that.
Dear Diedre says:
You can have a relationship with your cousin in Britain. You can even get married.
Cousins may be attracted to each other because of a familial trait, but socially it is still unusual for cousins to get together romantically or sexually and can test family relationships.
Some may even feel that it is akin to incest, and if a fight arises between an existing family, it will not be so easy.
First introduce your friend as a friend and tell your mother that you found out you are cousins. If your relationship really has legs, then go for it.
Genetic counseling can allay any fears you may have about having children. Contact Genetic Alliance (geneticalliance.org.uk, 0300 124 0441) for advice.
“As long as they don’t have children there is nothing morally wrong with it, just the social rejection they will face,” wrote a third.
Meanwhile, a fourth said: “There are some people in the world you can’t date and most of them are your family for a reason. Please reach out, this is not okay.”
“I didn’t expect 99% of people to accept this. Your family probably never will and I can’t really blame them. You want to lose your family completely, all because of this man? It seems pretty foolish. ” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “Incest will always be a firm no from me. You should probably reconsider this relationship.”
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