A heavily pregnant woman is in a difficult position after her fiancé of three years told her he “wants a break”.
She explained that the two had a good relationship until recently, but were dealing with “a lot of external stress,” including a stalking and harassment lawsuit against a neighbor.
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“This has become worse over the last few months and my partner is trying to take the brunt of the stress so it doesn’t cause any problems for me or the baby. After all, we all know that excessive stress can be detrimental to a baby’s development,” she wrote in the Mumsnet post.
She added that she had noticed their relationship had “deteriorated” and that they were “more like roommates at this stage than a supportive relationship”
Her fiancé had recently called her in and explained that he was having trouble keeping up with everything and that he “couldn’t give me what I needed.”
He said he would have suggested she stay with family while he “sorted out his head,” but they live two hours away and that wasn’t an option since she was 36 weeks pregnant.
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“I had said that given my due date that wasn’t an option and that I didn’t need to leave my house for him to ‘get better,’ but I can understand that he needs to change in some way to feel better mentally,” she continued.
They are now trying a “weird form of ‘separation'” where he moves into the guest room and says, “He doesn’t know if we should be together anymore and he just wants to see if he can ‘get himself back’ before the baby comes.”
Things get even more complicated because he has made “a new friend.”
“I’m normally a very tolerant and relaxed person, so we can do things separately and I don’t mind,” she said.
“But since he told me he made a new girlfriend (a woman, but normally I don’t have a problem with that) he hangs out with her every night after work. He stops at 5:30, showers, gets dressed and leaves the house at 6:00. Sometimes I don’t get home until 9:00. Some nights I feel really sad, lonely, unwanted and jealous.
“I told him recently that I had come to terms with the fact that it was over between us and I gave him my ring back.
“He had asked me not to give up on him and assured me that this person was just a friend.
“She has no interest in a relationship since her fiancé recently left her at the altar.”
But she said that if it were “the other way around,” she wonders if he “would like me spending a lot of time with an attractive man, while he can’t do anything at home.”
And while she hopes that “everything will be okay once the baby comes,” she also knows that “babies rarely keep people together.”
She concluded her post by asking for advice on whether she should set more boundaries around the separation, such as using separate bathrooms and not using pet names.
But the majority of people in the comments urged the woman to accept that her fiancé might be cheating on her.
This is why I love being a young mom
Tracy Kiss, who became pregnant at the age of 19, has revealed what she believes are the perks of being a young mother.
The Buckinghamshire personal trainer and blogger believes women who give birth in their teens make BETTER mothers than those who give birth in their 30s.
She claims that new mothers get back into shape faster, have more energy and are better with their children, which means they behave better and are happier.
Tracy told Fabulous: “Women who become mothers for the first time in their teens are better parents than women who are in their 30s or 40s.
“I think if I had been 10 years old or older before I became a mother, I wouldn’t have the relationship I have with my children now.
“To start with, as I got older I had less energy and therefore less patience.
“After months of sleepless nights, I wouldn’t be as excited to talk to people as I was when I was a teenager.
“My body got back to its pre-pregnancy size after giving birth through exercise, which gave me the confidence to date and find love again. I’ve never been happier than I am now, at 30 with two kids.
“If I had been alone with a newborn at 40, I would be more tired, less happy with my body, less energetic, and much more stressed by the shock of living for myself instead of putting others first. Sometimes age and the innocence of ignorance is a good thing.
“As a teenage mother, I just rolled with it, found my groove and became responsible and capable, because at that point I didn’t know any better.”
“Throw him out. He’s having an affair and you’re about to have a baby,” one person wrote.
“You deserve better than this. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.”
“I think he actually fell in love with someone else but realizes that if he admits it everyone will know he’s an idiot,” added another.
“I would get him out of the house. Get your family to support you and plan a life for you and the baby without him.”
“Tell him to f**k off, he treats you like shit. How dare he?” raged a third.
“This is completely ridiculous behavior.
“Honestly, what’s wrong with men?”
“He can’t be a Fairweather partner, he’s either all in or he’s all in, he’s too old for all that f**king and ‘finding himself’,” agreed someone else.
As another wrote, “Yes, he wants to see if this other relationship will work before he dumps you completely.”
“Throw him away!”
