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If Valentine's was a leaching for you, with zero action that happens somewhere, from the letterbox to the bedroom, you may think you take a deep breath and jump into the online dating world.
But although many such daters meet a loving partner, others find the whole process discouraging, especially when a third of the singles ERT to lie online to impress voorags, with the worst use of a refined scamm technique that is known stands as a catfishing.
This is when someone tries to lure you into an online relationship – perhaps to extract money and often part of organized gangs – by pretending that they are not someone they are not.
As a dating coach and behavioral scientist I can see the meaningful signs a mile of a mile. There are still numerous real chaps that exist, but to prevent the cheats, watch out for these warning signals …
“As a dating coach and behavioral scientist, I can see the Telltale signs a mile,” writes Dr. Mairi MacLeod
If his photo places him outside your normal experience of experience, chances are that the photo is of the social feed of a person who knows nothing that their image is being used in this way. It can even be an AI invention.
Asks far too many questions
Be suspicious of requests for frequent and long chats. Catvisers are always looking for vulnerabilities – and the more you talk, the more you will probably reveal.
They would like to find out if you are lonely (you will be seduced more easily) or be a widower (you may be rich).
Has the same problems as you
A smart list is to mirror your experiences to get your sympathy. For example, revealing a hardship (maybe a recent mourning, perhaps) that looks strongly like one that you have had. If his story is particularly painful or strange, ask yourself: “Why does he tell me this so early?”
Lives a very glamorous life
Catvisers often lie to look more interesting. If his week has crammed more excitement than the average person sees in a year, let him be more specific (“Tell me again, how do you know the duke?”; “Where did you follow your helicopter pilot training?”). Stay alert, because holes appear in his stories.
Has no idea of Amandaland
Short sentences and grammatical errors can be a sign of catfishing in action. Many are located abroad, with a poor understanding of English.
If he uses chatgpt, his messages will use flowery language or unusual sentences.
Let some cultural references fall (what is his opinion about Amandaland, how excited is he about the famous version of the traitors?). If he is in the UK and is real, he should be able to answer.
Saying that he works abroad for a long time is perhaps the truth, but this is also a common custewace. Geographical distance offers him an excuse for postponing any meetings.
Their video cam never works
If you have established a report, it is of course to want a video call. You cannot protect a video call against a scammer, but at least you can see if it looks like the photo. Repeated apologies are red flags. Even if he's not a catfish, he wastes your time.
He loves you and calls you 'baby'
If you are bombarded, it is very easy to be swept off your feet and lower your guard. This is exactly what the multi -fighter wants.
Catfish strategies to pay attention include mentioning your 'baby' or 'honey' rather than you would expect, or plan your future together when you have hardly exchanged different short messages.
A third of the singles admit that he is online to impress voorbles, with the worst use of a refined scammer technique that is known as catfishing
Quickly reveals his 'real' full name
Most people use a first name and only reveal last names if you have built up a report. But if a scammer has stolen a fake identity, he would like you to have the full name Google so that you can feel reassured that he is who he says he is (while he is not in fact!).
Suggests 'going to the app' and texts
Many dating apps have software to choose scammers by identifying catfish words and behavioral patterns. That is why a scammer will encourage you to get your chat 'from the app' and propose whatsapp or text instead.
He asks for money
No matter how tempting it is to help, every request for money from someone you met online is always a huge red flag. If he begs for a loan or the price of his airline tickets to see you, never, never part of your money!
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- As told to Louise Atkinson
