A woman who has stopped bringing gifts to weddings has revealed why she thinks everyone should.
Ivana Robinson, 34, from Mexico City, Mexico, has received a whole series of wedding invitations in recent years, because many members of her good group of friends have imposed the decision.
And while she initially followed the social standard by each bringing a gift, she decided to abolish it in 2019, after she noticed that she already fell over 'thousands' at the events.
She explained to DailyMail.com that she spends everything on everything, from the 'pre-wedding events' to the 'costs of travel', so she did not think she fell more about a gift.
“Between the pre-wedding events, the wardrobe, the costs of traveling and taking the free time of the work, it can easily bring you back thousands of dollars,” she stood.
She said she saw gifts to weddings as 'incredibly outdated', and added that most of her friends are 'established' and 'not' the gifts need.
“It is an incredibly outdated social norm. The days of marriage are no longer the first transition ritual to adulthood, “she shared.
'Most of my friends live with their partner for years, years before they get married. They didn't need a blender from me. '
A woman who has stopped bringing gifts to weddings has revealed why she thinks everyone should do that too (stock image)
Ivana Robinson, 34, from Mexico City, Mexico, has received a whole series of wedding invitations in recent years, because many members of her good group of friends have brought the knot
According to Ivana, who said she went to nine weddings without bringing a gift, only one of her friends noticed that she had not taken a gift.
“And she was more busy making sure I still got a thank you card,” Ivana was full.
“My friends mainly appreciated my presence and were very happy that I had made the effort to be with them on their special day.”
The Mexico City resident told DailyMail.com that she hates the 'expectations' about giving gifts, which explains that it has become a 'social obligation' rather than a well-thought-out process.
'My problem is not with giving gifts as a practice, but the expectations around it. Gifts must come from the heart. No social obligation, “she said.
In response to those who may feel like marriage gifts are of vital importance to alleviate some of the costs of the wedding, she encouraged them to “interview their priorities.”
“In what other circumstances is it acceptable to expect that a guest will cover the costs of an event that you decided to host?” She joked.
'If you can't afford the party, then you might have to consider celebrating other ways.
While she initially followed the social norm by bringing gifts, she decided to stop because she already talked about the events 'thousands'. She saw at a friend's wedding
She explained that she spends everything, from the 'pre-wedding events' to the 'costs of travel', so she didn't think it was needed even more about a gift
'The central goal of a wedding is to celebrate your association with your loved ones. If you prefer to receive a gift than make a shared memory, you might have to save the invitation. '
In the end she encouraged others to follow in her footsteps, especially if they feel 'stressed' about being able to pay all costs associated with attending wedding.
“Gifts should not be stressful and the couple will probably never know unless you bring it up years after the fact,” she concluded.
Wedding etiquette expert Allison Cullman previously told Brides.com that colleagues, distant family members and general acquaintances should give $ 50- $ 70 as a wedding gift.
She ordered friends to give $ 75- $ 100 and close family, best friends and the wedding party to $ 100- $ 150+.
“If you are with a plus one, it is common to double the gift amount,” she said.
But the site added: 'If you feel financial limitations because of other costs related to attending the wedding – especially if you attend a long celebration – it is OK to think of those other costs when you decide what to do you Donate to a couple.
“If you have contributed serious time or money by helping with the wedding, such as hosting the wedding shower or serving as the bride's makeup artist on the wedding day, you don't expect a gift either.”
