In 1984 I had a school in Central Africa just when the AIDS Pandemie hit.
At that time we had no idea what happened or why in the past and healthy men and women suddenly started to fade and die before our eyes, leaving many young orphans behind.
It was in a part of Zambia where there was little to offer in terms of health care, infrastructure or social support.
We were only there for a year, but it was one of the most memorable periods of my life – not least because of the despair and destruction that my deceased husband Paul and I saw his toll at that time.
We have often spoken about the people we knew and with whom we worked over the years. A favorite was Swahna. I can still hear his smile and see his face on the day I brought an English bull terrier to the house, and he asked me, “Is this dog or is this pig?”
Swahna would bind vodden at his feet, put on a Beatles -LP and raise the volume while he danced through the room, sang on the top of his voice while he polishes the parquet floor.
Before our return to the UK, he only wanted a smart trilby hat for himself, a pink hat with feathers for his wife and a pushbike with a basket like leaving gifts. He refused the money we tried to give him until we were on it.
Only months later we heard that both Swahna and his wife had mysteriously died within weeks in succession, leaving a beloved young daughter behind.
Some say that the Sussex's Duchess has hijacked a photo -possibility at the Royal Salute Polo Challenge in 2024, which Sophie Chandauka lagged away from the Prince's side
The prince seems to be accused of bullying, racism and intimidation by the chair of Sentebale, Dr. Sophie Chandauka
When Prince Harry co -founded his charity in 2006, Sentebale, founded in memory of his deceased mother princess Diana to help young people pointed by AIDS in the small African Nation Lesotho, I was touched and impressed. He was only 21 years old, and this was a much needed initiative in one of the countries that were hit hardest by AIDS.
In the following years, the charity expanded his work in South Africa and it seemed to be going into force so far.
The massive resignation of Trustees last week was followed by the resignation of Prince Harry and his co-founder, Prince Seeiso of Lesotho, as protectors.
Then came the stubborn allegations from the chair of Sentebale, Dr. Sophie Chandauka, of bullying, intimidation and racism that seem to be on Harry himself.
I was once reluctant to dive into and criticize Harry for the many things he was accused of as a teenager and young man. Just like millions of us, I always retained a weakness for the young prince, even during his quirky years before he came down to join the army and to serve in Afghanistan.
However, things changed when he married Meghan, and they made the dramatic decision to leave life as working royals. Instead of public duty, they looked Hellbent on cashing in their titles with those striking Netflix and Podcast Deals.
In his own memoirs in 2023 he did not spare anyone while he defended Meghan against racism and misogyny by narrow members of his own family.
But I never believed that what followed 'megxit' was only Harry's decision – or even what he wanted. And for me there was no clearer demonstration thereof than the unbearable moment in their Netflix documentary from 2022 when he leaned back and looked while Meghan performed a low Curtsey in an anecdote that many corresponds to our late queen.
Prince Seeiso of Lesotho and Prince Harry attended a welcome event in Sentebale in 2024. The couple went off as protective lords last week after massive dismissal at the charity
At that time, the eyes of the prince were sad, his expression, uncertain. He was certainly not comfortable.
Another example came in April last year with that revealing and unflatter images of Meghan apparently hijacks a photo-optimale in a fundraising Polo competition for Sentebale.
We now learn from Dr. Chandauka that the Duchess of Sussex was not expected, but suddenly appeared (with a friend of celebrities in tow), and the chaotic scenes of Meghan who appeared twice to lead the charity boss away from Harry's side during the prize that prizes was the result.
Dr. Chandauka claimed during the weekend that she was asked by Harry to defend Meghan against criticism after the video went viral, what she refused to do.
I wonder if that was the day that the campaign that Dr. Chandauka claims is fed to have her removed from her position in Sentebale?
I think it might be Piers Morgan who was the first to suggest that Meghan was a narcissist, and he has said it repeatedly since then. I am afraid to say, I agree with him. And in this I believe that the explanation for Harry's – sometimes inexplicable – is behavior.
That is not not to apologize in any way. He is an adult a 40-year-old father of two-way freedom and perspective. But how can he have tolerated some more questionable actions from Meghan?
Secretly I have always had the feeling that there is only one excuse left for Harry's behavior, all others have been looted. Is he the 'flying monkey' – that is a psychological term used to describe someone who captivates and defends and apologizes – against Meghan?
The term comes from the wizard of Oz in which the bad witch laid flying monkeys under her spell. Flying monkeys are those people who will defend a narcissist; who will justify and explain their behavior while they do not see or understand what is happening around them.
Usually such Enablers have personality errors of themselves, are needy and easily recorded by narcissists, who can be charming and exuberant if it fits their manipulative goal or attracts attention.
From what we have learned about her, I believe that the Duchess of Sussex shows narcissistic qualities, including a need for admiration, a sense of rights and self -interest, and even a lack of empathy (given her alienation of many of her own family).
Continue with the hat of my armchair psychologist, I understand that over time Enablers can feel isolated and miserable when the people around them get disappointed with the narcissist and start to disconnect.
Some friends of Prince Harry have said they are increasingly worried about him. It is said that he barely leaves his Montecito – Hent of Huis in California, and they fear that he has actually become Meghan's 'reserve' because she has launched a new lifestyle show – the watch is worth seeing what narcissistic charm and fakery looks like in action – and a podcast quickly.
I have some sympathy for Harry. It must be devastating to see the possible implosion of a charity that meant so much to him and to face such disturbing allegations about his behavior. My sincere hope is that someone from his press team marks this column towards him and that he takes the phone to his therapist.
And if there is a salvation for this lost son, then it is to find what he is doing best – the awareness of the awkward state of the orphans of Africa or of the wounded military veterans in his other major charity initiative, Invictus.
