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An Indian woman has announced that she will marry in what has been called the country’s first ‘sologamy’ but has been labeled by critics as nothing more than a high-profile publicity stunt.
Kshama Bindu, a sociology graduate and ‘digital creator’ from the western state of Gujarat, will be married in the city of Vadodara on June 11 in a traditional Hindu ceremony attended by family and friends in the city of Vadodara.
The 24-year-old says the marriage will be “a deep act of self-acceptance” and that she will dedicate herself to a life of “self-love” before taking herself on a two-week honeymoon in the southern state of Goa. †
Kshama Bindu, 24, a bisexual ‘digital creator’ and sociology graduate from Gujarat, India, will be married on June 11 in a traditional Hindu ceremony
Bindu says her family and friends will attend the ceremony – at a temple in the city of Vadodara – in which she will commit herself to a life of ‘self-love’
But experts say the marriage will not be legal, as others accused her of being an “attention seeker.”
“You can live with yourself without marrying yourself. You’re just an attention grabber and you played well,” wrote one Twitter user.
“Wake up, a joke!” wrote another, while a third added, “As crazy as can be.”
The 24-year-old said she decided during the ceremony to show other women that they can be self-sufficient
Speaking to India’s NDTV, Bindu said: “I realized I don’t need a charming prince because I’m my own queen. I want the wedding day, but not the next day.
‘That’s why I decided to get married on June 11 myself. I’m going to dress up as a bride, participate in rituals, my friends come to my wedding and then I come back to my house instead of going with the groom.’
In an interview with the BBC, she added that the celebrations will start early on June 11 with a traditional Haldi bath – in which turmeric mixed with oil and water is applied all over the body as a blessing for a good marriage.
Sangeet, another traditional ceremony with music and dance, will also take place the same morning.
Bindu will then have her hands painted with henna and her hair marked with vermilion powder before going to the temple.
Once there, she will light a sacred fire and walk seven steps around it – a tradition usually undertaken by both partners – alone.
After returning home, she leaves on her own for Goa for a two-week vacation.
After marrying herself, Bindu leaves for a two-week honeymoon in the South Indian state of Goa
Bindu said the wedding ceremony will include traditional rituals and be blessed by a priest, but experts say the law defines marriage as between two people, so the ‘union’ will not be valid
Bindu, who identifies as bisexual, said she has the approval of her father – an engineer from South Africa – and mother – also an engineer from Ahmedabad – for the “groomless” ceremony.
“I’ve already booked a priest to perform my wedding,” she added.
‘I have noticed that, unlike in the West, self-marriages are not popular in India.
‘That’s why I decided to start this trend and inspire others. People may not like my idea, but I’m confident I’m doing the right thing.”
But Krishnakant Vakharia, a lawyer with India’s Supreme Court, said the law states that it takes two people to perform a marriage – and that “sologamy” would not be recognized as legitimate.
Chandrakant Gupta, another senior lawyer, added: ‘The Hindu Marriage Act uses the terminology ‘either spouse’, which simply means that there must be two persons to complete the marriage.
“Sologamy will never withstand legal scrutiny.”