A mother has been left furious after her best friend “screamed” at her four-year-old son for “ruining” her wedding.
The woman went to Reddit’s Am I The Asshole thread to share her story and explain how she convinced her friend that inviting children to the wedding was a good idea.
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“Her two sisters both have children about the same age as my son, and she also considers him her nephew,” she wrote.
“But she wanted to be able to let loose and enjoy her wedding without worrying about the kids ruining it.
“I told her my opinion and told her that my husband and I allowed children at our wedding and we wouldn’t have it any other way.
“The children were still family and deserved to be included.
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“After this, and after consulting with her sisters, she and her husband gave permission to have children before the wedding.”
Everything went ‘smoothly’ during the ceremony as she had even purchased ‘quiet activities’ to keep the children occupied.
“I even cried because of the beauty of it,” she said.
During the reception, the bride and groom and their guests enjoyed dinner, after which the bride and groom took to the dance floor for their first dance.
“Afterwards, everyone was welcome to come onto the dance floor before the cake was cut,” she continued.
“At that point, the kids were running around and playing with each other. It was a pretty safe space and I knew almost everyone there, so I was comfortable with my son playing with the other kids while my husband and I were having a good time dancing.”
While the bride had had “a few glasses of wine” at the time, she was also “drinking and celebrating.”
When the cake was about to be cut, the woman and her husband walked over to it, but there was a “crowd blocking our view.”
“Suddenly I hear my best friend screaming my son’s name,” she wrote.
“My husband and I continue to investigate to see what is wrong.
“I see my son with icing around his mouth and on his fingers. A small piece has been taken out of the cake.”
As the woman tried to apologize, the bride turned around and screamed, “This is YOUR FAULT. Your son RUINED my cake. He’s only here because YOU told me it would be worth it to include the kids!”
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“I yelled back and told her it was just an accident and that the rest of the cake was still edible,” she said.
“That it was her nephew she was screaming for.
“She told me that I wasn’t her friend and that he wasn’t her cousin, right in front of everyone.”
At that point, both the woman and her son began to cry. The bride told them to leave or she would call security.
After the wedding, one of the bride’s sisters apologized, but also said she should apologize to her friend as well.
“I don’t think saying sorry after her outburst is an option,” she insisted.
“I told her sister and said that I expected an apology before I said anything to her.
“She has not only lashed out at me in front of everyone, but also at my son. I feel humiliated, but I am even angrier on his behalf.”
And in the comments, people were quick to point to the woman, instead of the bride.
“YOU and your negligent parenting are the reason people don’t allow children at weddings,” one of them fumed.
“You’re ruining it for parents who understand that little ones need supervision and who stay with their child to make sure they’re behaving, and take them away if they’re not.”
“Why would you even bring a 4 year old to a wedding?!? I don’t get it,” asked another.
“Your kid ruined the wedding cake and you just think it was an ‘accident’?” wrote a third.
“He knowingly put his fingers in the cake and ate a piece of it. How can that be an accident?”
“I’ll never understand why people are so obsessed with bringing kids to weddings,” said someone else.
“As a mother of three, I found it absolutely horrible how much stress I felt at these kinds of events when they were little.”
“Sorry but I teach my child good manners and I wouldn’t trust him 100%,” added another.
“Not every outburst/bad behavior from a child means the parents didn’t teach him/her anything.
“It’s all about how the parents respond and whether they prepare the child for success/failure.”
“Wedding cakes are EXPENSIVE,” someone else noted.
“Should she have yelled? Probably not, but you definitely should have watched your child.
“This was absolutely completely your fault. Parents never believe that they are to blame for the chaos their children cause.
“Your child ruined this moment for the bride.”
“Look at your children,” another commented.
“You have to apologize and beg for forgiveness, and pay for the cake.”
