Mom sparks debate on ‘parents these days’, asks ‘what’s wrong with saying ‘no’?’
A pregnant woman shared her controversial views on modern parenting techniques.
She explained that she didn’t like the “lazy” approach most people take when raising their children.
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In her after On Mumsnet, an anonymous user asked whether it was unreasonable to think that “parents are just weak these days.”
She described most parents as “soft and incompetent” when it comes to raising their own children.
The poster said that she often sees children ‘doing what they want, screaming, [throwing] tantrums and wanting things’, while their parents act helpless.
“When I take the subway, children [are often] screaming and with their dirty feet on the chairs,” she wrote.
She also referred to the picky eating habits of children, which were not allowed in the past.
“At home, the kids don’t feel like eating and the parents pretend they own a restaurant and immediately cook something else,” she explains.
“What’s wrong with saying NO, ‘shut up’ or ‘eat what’s available.’”
She stressed that parents should be able to take time for themselves without their children throwing a tantrum.
“Why do parents constantly try to entertain their children and spend a fortune on stupid activities?” the Mumsnet user asked.
The poster pointed out the long-term consequences this could have for the children.
“The worst thing is that I see young colleagues [aged] 18 or 19 years old who comes to work [who] are just not capable of being human,” she said.
“[They are] constantly late, [we] need to think about their feelings and emotions, [we] “You can’t even complain to HR if they don’t do their job properly.”
The woman explained that she wanted to do things differently with her children.
“I am going to be a mother myself soon and if necessary, I will discipline my child strictly, not that ‘let them express themselves’ thing,” she concluded.
However, Mumsnet users didn’t entirely agree with her post.
What kind of mother are you?
- Tiger Mother: A parent who expects the child to be obedient from the start, to excel in every way and a child who never talks back.
- Helicopter Mom: A parent who intervenes to prevent every struggle their child has. They are too involved in every aspect of their child’s life.
- Bulldozer mother: A parent who pushes all obstacles out of the way of their child. This style can promote entitlement or narcissism in a child.
- Free-roaming mother: A parent who believes that their role is to trust their child, giving them skills to stay safe and then return.
- Affectionate Mother: A parent who believes that strong emotional and secure physical bonds are essential for the child’s personal development.
“Totally agree. When I was a kid, yelling was not allowed. Now I never hear a parent try to stop their child from making unacceptable noise levels,” wrote one reader.
“I’m in my 40s and I totally agree with you,” said another commenter.
Some parents, on the other hand, pointed out this problem from this point of view.
“I mean, it depends on their age, but a lot of people would consider it [your approach to be] “It’s also pretty lazy parenting,” said one.
“Let’s bring back corporal punishment,” another reader wrote sarcastically.
“Go back when your child is born and at least a toddler,” one parent said.
