Mother Reveals She Hates Kids Traveling With Her, Makes It Clear They Aren’t Invited

A mother has sparked a debate after she revealed how she hates it when parents bring their children to her kids’ birthday parties.

She explained that she didn’t think it was fair to her or the child and that she didn’t agree with the intruder having to pay.

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The action made her so angry that she took to an online forum Mothernet to express her thoughts on this.

She also asked other parents what they thought and whether her views were unreasonable.

She titled the post: “AIBU [Am I being unreasonable] “Not liking it when people bring other kids who aren’t invited to a party?”

The mother then asked others Mothernet users: “For example, if you were having a birthday party and you invited the kids, but the parent wanted to bring the kid’s siblings or another friend, wouldn’t that be annoying?”

She then explained why she disagreed.

The mother wrote: “It would really piss me off if someone bought another child who wasn’t invited, because my child (unless they were friends or knew each other somehow) would hardly know them.

“I would think it wouldn’t be fair to the child because they don’t know who the party is.”

The mother then stressed that she did not want to pay for the extra ‘unwanted’ guest.

She added: “It will probably get worse if the uninvited guests expect party bags and food.”

One parent expressed his thoughts this way: ‘There is a woman in my child’s class who has four children and all four children seem to be at every party this child is invited to.

“The father is never there to pick up or drop off the kids, so he has to be there on the weekends, but still the kids all seem to have to come along.

“It annoys me every time, even though I assume she asked for it and it’s okay.

I would think it wouldn’t be fair to the child, because they don’t know who the party is.

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“I also have a younger child and before my oldest was old enough to drop her off and bring her back, I would always make sure someone looked after her or pay her separately and buy food etc. if it was some kind of soft play party.”

Another parent who was guilty of this explained how they solved the problem.

They wrote: “I have taken my other child to parties in the past, but only to playgrounds or places where I could pay extra admission.

“I never expect anyone to arrange food or a present for an extra child.

“That being said, I always make sure I have a few extra party bags when I have a party so I can fit in a few extra passengers.”

A third parent added: “I think it depends on the location/age of the kids.

“It seems pretty standard that siblings are welcome at play/village house parties here.

“But these are whole class parties with younger children who are not yet at the drop and go age. The siblings in two are invariably babies/toddlers and therefore cannot simply be left alone.

“But YANBU [you are not being unreasonable] when bringing friends or accepting food/party bags.

“I also think that this would be different if it were a more limited number. We are not talking about babies in arms here.”