Mother sparks debate after not letting daughter play in parks
A mother has revealed the “controversial things” she does as a mother to her almost 14-year-old daughter.
Lous took to social media to find other parents and ask them about their controversial parenting techniques, while also revealing her own.
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The video, which was shared on her account, is titled ‘lous_leven’, has been viewed more than 68,000 times and many people have commented on the video.
Lous told the camera: “I have never limited screen time and I never will.
“She uses her phone when she wants, she uses her laptop when she wants, she turns on the TV when she wants.
“Maybe I would think differently about that if she wasn’t so busy all the time. So she does extracurricular activities six days a week.
“So if she’s done her homework, and done what she needs to do and she decides she wants to lay on the couch with some snacks, watch TV and scroll through TikTok, fine — that’s what I do when I have everything I need to do.”
Lous also revealed that she doesn’t let her daughter ask for snacks, or permission to eat the food, because she feels it gives her children a “negative relationship with food.”
Once Lous has had her breakfast, lunch and dinner, she doesn’t mind heading to the kitchen for a snack, whether it’s carrots with humor or a tub of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream.
Another controversial parenting method that Lous uses is that she does not let her child play.
Lous said, “She doesn’t play, and she never has played.
“Like I said, she’s busy, but as we know from the generation of kids who grew up in parks as teenagers, nothing positive or good happens in those parks, as far as I can remember.
Bedtime Tips for Moms
IF YOU’RE tired of your toddler not wanting to go to bed, read on.
A child health expert has revealed five steps you should take to calm your child so he or she can sleep well.
Dr. Kaylene henderson spoke with Nine Honey about what to do when your toddler just won’t sleep at night.
Every child is different and needs different amounts of sleep depending on their age. With these simple tips, you can make parents’ evenings a lot easier.
Just like adults, children need enough time to unwind before going to bed.
For example, make sure they have enough time to relax after a busy day.
The expert advises giving toddlers one to two hours to go to bed.
And it’s just as important that parents take time to relax and be more present so that toddlers feel calmer.
Dr. Henderson explains: “After all, our children are barometers of the tensions in the family.
“If we want our children to calm down, we have to make an effort to shut ourselves off — from our phones, our work emails, and the many other distractions that compete for our attention.”
We’ve all heard that we should turn off our screens before going to sleep because blue light stops our brains from producing melatonin, our body’s sleep hormone.
Therefore, the expert advises turning off the device 60 to 90 minutes before bedtime so that children can sleep well.
According to the expert, music and meditation can also help your child fall asleep.
She adds that slow music, with a rhythm of about 60 beats per minute, can improve breathing, heart rate and brain waves and relax muscles.
“There are also beautiful guided meditations that are specifically designed to help young children fall asleep at night.
“Headspace for Kids has a special section on sleep, tailored to three age groups: five and under, six to eight, and nine to 12. You can try it for free,” she adds.
Finally, Dr. Henderson recommends maintaining a consistent routine each night to help your toddler fall asleep easily.
When children know what to expect each evening, they can relax more easily and, of course, fall asleep more easily.
One of the best ways to do this is to tell a bedtime story.
She adds: “Remember, the goal is to get our little ones used to sleep, so bedtime stories are the perfect tool, in the perfect place, to do that.”
“If she wants to go out with friends, she can, I’ll take her there. I’ll even pick them up and take them there. It’s not a problem, but there’s no question of playing.
“It’s not a thing in my household.”
Lous also had her daughter wax her legs when she was in sixth grade because she didn’t see why she should feel ‘insecure about her hairy legs’.
Hundreds of people responded to the comments and shared their thoughts, with many agreeing with Lous’ parenting style.
One of them wrote: “Millennial moms heal my inner child, I swear.”
Another added: “I get this, and I’m actually grateful for your post. I’m making this so hard on myself with my beautiful boy, and he’s such a good, good boy!!
“He’s just a dream, but he does what we say/recommend, so I have to trust him a little more! So thanks for that.”
A third said: “I do all these things and I constantly doubt myself but when I heard you say that I thought wow what an amazing mum! perspective huh!”
She doesn’t play, and she never has played.
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“I am the same… I have rules, but my children are people with feelings and emotions. And all my children tell me everything, we have no secrets,” said a fourth.
But not everyone was a fan. Some found her lines “ridiculous, apart from the fact that they weren’t performed.”
They continued: “She’s your child, not your best friend.”
